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Health knowledge made personal
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Health knowledge made personal
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I think it's possible to help people close to us, but they have to be open to it...and, we as healers need to be respectful and not come off like we are the experts that know everything. It's one thing to be the expert with a paying client but that does not go over so well with loved ones when it is unsolicited.
A very important thing to remember: If your son does not share the same beliefs as you (and your clients), he will not respond to the same words you share with others. Particularly if you come from a new age perspective, it's important to be mindful that some of what you might take for granted as an idea comes off as just a platitude to someone else.
I read one of your other articles and you were quoting Abraham-Hicks. People either love them or hate them. Personally, I am a new age person who dislikes Abraham-Hicks and the minute someone starts to quote them I generally shut off from what they are saying. One of the worst things to say to someone who is not a Hicks fan when they are upset is something like "the law of attraction says that you create everything in your life." You may think that's comforting; I find it to blame the victim.
This is not to say you are right or I am wrong but if you want to help your son you need to language it more carefully and hear him rather than just give him advice based on your belief system. You may be the expert to your clients but you are just "mom" or "wife" in your personal life. If you drop your expert hat with your family I suspect you'll be better able to help them.
I have plenty of friends who do not come to me for healing or coaching but I help them because I listen to them when they need to talk. That's all you need to do too.
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One of the basic principles of medicine is to refrain from treating people close to you such as a family member. It’s like the closeness of relationship make it hard to be objective.
That also seems to be one of the repeating lessons of my life. Years ago one of my sons was in crisis. He came to my house with fear in his heart. As we talked about his fear and I addressed it with the same words and spoken in the same way that I had addressed hundreds of fears of other people, my son became more and more agitated. The conversation ended badly as he went into full blown aggression.
Later, as I prayed and meditated on this experience with my son, the little voice in my head said, “I have helped countless other people but I cannot help my son.” A feeling of hopeless followed that voice. My heart was heavy with my powerlessness.
I think I’ve soothed and comforted many people with massage therapy but I have not been able to help my husband. He has suffered with low back pain for three weeks. Massage has not worked for him. Once again my heart is heavy.
And once again, I’m learning that I cannot help those I love the most - I can only love them unconditionally and allow them the freedom of their own life’s journey.
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All the art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on. ~Havelock Ellis