Let go of things you have no control over. Listen, you have to come to realize that some things cannot be changed. You cannot change the way others think about you. You cannot change the way others treat you. You cannot change how the government wants your tax dollars. Being overly concerned about things you have no control over will only cause you more stress and ill health. Ask yourself, "Is it worth it?". Then, put the extra energy you will have into things you do have control over.
Write positive affirmations.These will help reprogram your mind and retrain your thoughts. Read them out loud to yourself just before retiring for the day and then again in the early morning to start your day on a positive note. Tell yourself you are great! For example, "I am great!", "I am strong and confident!", "I am full of energy!", "Good things come to me regularly!". Do this for 21 days and see what happens to you. See how others react to you. You may find that you are clearer in your thinking, more confident in your decisions, and more optimistic about who you are and what the future has in store for you.
Be thankful for all the blessings you have. All too often people place too much emphasis on what they do not have or what they lost or what was taken away from them. Focussing on things we don't have only creates more of what we don't want in our life. Instead, show true appreciation for what you do have. Develop an attitude of gratitude and allow yourself to get absorbed in all the great things you already have and deserve. Experience this feeling.
Keep visualizing your dreams and believe that you will achieve them.Keep the end in mind. Focus mentally on where you see yourself going. Have a clear vision in your mind where you want to be. Act as though you are already there. "Feel it" inside your body - the way you breathe, the way you walk, the way you look. Allow yourself to experience in your mind what you expect to achieve and focus on it daily.
Laugh everyday!Recall funny moments in your life - especially from your childhood or something you saw your own child do. Really, let yourself go - get a good belly laugh in everyday.
Keep positive people in your life. Surrounding yourself with people who make you feel good will build you into a better person to be around too. Find out where people you want to be more like spend their time, and go there. Let their optimism and success rub off on you. On the other hand, there may be people you would rather not spend too much time with due to their negative attitudes. Be nice to them. However, keep them at a distance that will not affect your progress. Yes, even a friend or relative.
Think about how you talk to yourself. Tone down the negative self talk. More people are harder on themselves than any other person will ever be. Not only does negative talk make you less attractive to others, it gets ingrained into your subconscious mind that that is really how things are. If others around you are not positive, good impressions, then you need to be so even more. It starts with how you think. Respect yourself. If you don't, how can you expect others to respect you?
List your accomplishments. You accomplish something everyday, right? You need to acknowledge this regularly. Not only will it make you feel good, it will enable you to strengthen your outlook on life. Think back and list the accomplishments you have made to this point in your life. Remember how you felt when you completed them? How does that make you feel now? Even if something did not work out the way you wanted it to work, think about what you learned from that. What you learned is another accomplishment. How does THAT make you feel? You should feel quite good knowing that even what most might see as a failure, really wasn't. You see, there is always an upside to everything. Always. Never forget that.
Number 3 is so important. We've got to remind ourselves to remember what we've been blessed with. In this world of "gimme, gimme, gimme", we forget what we've already got! I have to remind myself of this often.
Number 7 is probably one of the hardest ones. I am very hard on myself, expecting only the best. That is an impossible expectation to have and it's tough to remember I haven't failed or let myself down, but I've done my best and can't be faulted for that.
Number 8 I would say is related to 7. It's easier to recognize one's own accomplishments if there's already self-belief in place.
Thanks for the tips. It's helpful to get reminders that a positive outlook achieves goals faster.