At twenty-one I was a single parent to a one year old boy, lived with my parents, and was going to college. Parts of my life were difficult but not really hard. At that time, I thought I had been through the worst of what I would encounter in life, and everything from that point on would be gravy. I was wrong.
My life from the time I was twenty-one has not always been pleasant, some of it was because of the choices I made, some from choices others made for me, and some was a combination of the two. There have been times in my life when I wished I could go back and do things differently, but not anymore. The past is the past and there is not a thing I can do about it.
However, if I could offer my 21 year old self some advice, there are a few things I would like to say to my younger self.
Never settle. I know it is tempting, but never settle. It is easier in the short term, but it always makes things harder in the long run.
See a counselor, you went through something traumatic when your husband left, and you need some help moving past it.
Listen to your gut. If it is telling you that the person you are with might be an abuser, listen and then run.
You are a precious and wonderful person and never let anyone tell you differently.
Be kind to yourself, and love yourself.
If you had the opportunity, what would you say to your 21 year old self?