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To Quit or Not to Quit (Therapy, That Is)? ADVICE REQUIRED!

Posted May 26 2010 8:49am

Hello once more, all.  I returned on Monday from Turkey having had a lovely time and being in a surprisingly non-shit mood upon arrival back in Norn Iron.  I think the good weather here helped; this country, for all its faults, is stunningly beautiful especially whilst bathed in bright sunlight.

Anyway, I may report on the holiday in due course, but for now I need your advice, my precious lovelies.  I’ve been thinking seriously since I last saw C – and before, for that matter – of just quitting therapy.   I will outline my reasons and the pros and cons of this, but whatever the case I would really value your advice or tales of your experiences of same.   Thanks so much to all of you on Twitter and Facebook that have already provided such counsel.

Basically, I feel that the whole situation with C is completely out of my control, and this is doing my head in.  I’m not exactly a control freak, but I know that if things are in my hands, then at least I am not in as vulnerable a position than I would be in the case where the power is firmly in the hands of others.  The therapy is ending in – what? –  seven or eight weeks anyway, so why not take control of things in one of the few ways I now can?  What are those few weeks going to actually even do, apart from fuck up my life even more?

I’m also at the stage where I believe firmly that therapy is thoroughly re-traumatising me.  I accept that a certain amount of this is inevitable – indeed, I’m sure, necessary – in trauma therapy, but the thing is in most cases the therapist continues working with the client at least until he or she has been able to overcome that re-traumatisation (or, in the worst case scenario, not be quite so hideously haunted by it).  This will not be the case with me, unless C can miraculously process all my traumatic memories – those of systematic, long-term child sexual abuse, abandonment/rejection, bullying and betrayal – in a few pathetic weeks.  He doesn’t even know about it all (not because I have deliberately withheld information, simply as some things have to take priority), so how can he?  Basically, I am completely re-traumatised and it is all but impossible that I am going to leave therapy in a different state.

Useful work is not even being done at this stage, in my view, because I’ve become terribly defensive again.  At least, I assume that it is defensiveness – it never feels exactly like that in session, it’s just that I can’t seem to talk about anything worthwhile anymore.  But of course I can rationalise that behaviour out of session: I know that I’m teetering on the precipice of being hurt with a pain unparalleled in years, so it makes sense for me to clam up in order that I can protect myself from being even more at C’s mercy than I already am.

So, pros and cons of ending therapy of my own accord.



One thing I am going to do – to wind C and the Trust up if nothing else – is demand some material from them.  One, I want copies of the entire files that C and NewVCB hold on me.  They will be requested, respectively, tomorrow and at my psychiatric appointment next Wednesday.  Two, I intend to launch a Freedom of Information request into the minutiae of certain Trust expenditure, so as I can quote the Trust’s almost inevitable wastage in my ongoing dispute with Mr Director-Person (more on that cunt later today).

So.  In conclusion, I would really, really appreciate all your thoughts on this matter.  Any views of any persuasion are most welcome.  Should I quit therapy with C before he quits it for me, or should I ride it out to the end?

Thank you all.  x

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