Take Hold of Your Life by Healing from the Narcissist
Posted Nov 09 2012 4:03pm
In a mysterious way we can expand and deepen the meaning of our lives
when we successfully leave the narcissist (spouse, mother, father,
narcissistic family), sibling, mother-in-law) . There are many steps
involved. It is a painful but highly valuable process and journey.
Recognizing that you are married to a narcissist and the frequent
recipient of his/her abuse is the beginning of your healing. This is a
tough time. There can creep in the temptation to go back to this man or
woman who has occupied large portions of your life. You may have even
become accustomed to his outrageous demands and criticisms. And if you
have been on board for the heightened lifestyle, this decisive move away
from him/her is usually difficult. For some spouses they have been
waiting for decades to make the break on the end of the high platform
ready to dive into the new waters of life. "What a relief! I am free now
to be myself."
There are as many avenues to healing
as there are individuals. Some find that high quality psychotherapy is
very helpful. Forming a therapeutic alliance with a therapist who is
clinically knowledgeable and highly empathic creates a healing bond that
many need during this tough time. Become informed by interviewing
several therapists. Some of them with all of their education and
training are motivated by the business money driven aspects of their
practice. Some therapist dabble in their practices and are not
completely committed to helping their clients heal. Do your homework. It
will serve you well.
Some individuals find that
healing modalities like gentle yoga with emphasis on the breath and
focusing the mind alleviates their stress and accesses the
parasympathetic nervous system--the calming aspect of the body/mind.
Others discover their budding creativity in the form of writing,
painting, gardening and many other pursuits.Listening to music you love,
learning how to dance in any form, walking or going to the gym are
represent many different ways that you can begin to heal. If you have a
friend that you can trust and call upon at any time is a source of
strength. You are not alone, remember that. Some turn to meditation in
the form that works for them. Short meditations are very effective in
calming our errant thoughts. Don't be judgmental when you meditate. It
is all about making the effort.
Be kind to yourself.
You have been through a series of ordeals as the daughter, son, sibling,
husband, wife of a narcissistic personality. To learn about the
narcissistic personality in-depth, visit my website:thenarcissistinyourlife.com
Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D. Telephone Consultation: United States and International Book: Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life Email: email@example.com