Siblings of Narcissistic Brothers--Narcissistic Sisters---Heal and Prevail
Posted Feb 14 2012 3:00pm
Growing up in a narcissistic family with siblings with the same
personality disorder is beyond challenging. Mother or father narcissist
(or both) has seized upon one of your siblings (or more) as the perfect
living model of their excellence. From the beginning it is obvious that
this child is the One. All of the attention is placed on this child.
Narcissistic mother idealizes this living supply and experiences this
child as a perfect replica of herself. The blooming narcissist is
allowed to psychologically demean, humiliate and harm his/her brothers
and sisters. Mother
dismisses her other children as inferior. She makes fun of them, tells
them they can't measure up to the chosen child and that she is too
drained to listen or do anything for them. These narcissistic mothers
have their priorities. The "imperfect" children are treated as servants
in some cases. They do the cleaning, cooking, errands. They even pick up
after the golden narcissistic child. One of the most painful incessant
patterns is that they are constantly compared with the chosen one as
inferior, lazy, dumb, ugly, a behavior problem, untalented, socially
Those who survive this nightmare background need to take time to sort
out who they really are. It certainly is not what their narcissistic
mother projected on to them. That was coming from her dark unconscious.
Some of them find that quality psychotherapy helps them acknowledge and
experience their pain with a strong therapeutic alliance. Other forms of
healing are learning to quiet the mind, gentle yoga and of course the
use of your many creative gifts. Separating physically and emotionally
from the narcissistic mother is an integral part of the healing process.
Free for the first time in your life, you have only begun to rediscover
yourself and appreciate your true nature. To learn about the
narcissistic personality in-depth, visit my website:thenarcissistinyourlife.com
Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
Telephone Consultation: United States and International
Book: Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life