Self-talk is just what it appears to be: talking to your self. No, it doesn’t mean you are crazy. Self-talk is how we make decisions, such as figuring out what to eat or whether or not to get out of bed in the morning. We all use self-talk, but we aren’t always aware of what we tell ourselves. With better awareness of your personal self-talk, you can manage your self-talk more effectively.
I’m really simplifying this, but it is basically true: if you think more positively, you will feel better. Depression is a condition that affects your thinking and your emotions, so self-talk is a major factor.
If you have an event that really isn’t positive or negative, you might characterize that event positively or negatively anyway. Here is an example of an event: there was a sunrise this morning. Two people may say exactly the same thing: “It’s another day”, but one may say it with optimism and the other with pessimism. Even in the morning, we start determining how we will perceive our day.
Applying this to depression, you don’t have to accept the negative thoughts that might dominate your thinking. By fighting back with self-talk, you can gradually improve your moods, thoughts, and even energy. Even if you don’t convince yourself to think positively, an upgrade to neutral is better than negative.
Try paying attention to the messages you give yourself mentally. It may be surprising and helpful to become more aware of your self-talk, and then learn to manage your thoughts more effectively.