Extreme conflict, violence, and intolerance are all anger-based social issues that greatly affect marriages, families, children, the workplace, and entire cultures. Take the fact that it is estimated that between 2.3 million and 10 million children are exposed to intimate partner violence (parents fighting) each year in the United States alone. Or the fact that in Los Angeles county (California), as one example, there are an estimated 1300 street gangs with over 150,000 members; the vast majority of violent incidents involving gang members continue to result from fights over turf, status, and revenge.
Angry teens increasingly are front-page news as they return to schools and shoot victims they perceive as prior tormentors. Most unhappy teens of course do not resort to shooting those who may have rejected them. Instead, they suffer silently with their brooding anger often to the detriment of their grades, their social lives, and their self-esteem. In the business world, there is no question that poorly handled anger, frustration and resentment sabotage productivity. Studies show that a high percentage of time on the job is spent engaging in or trying to resolve conflicts. This results in wasted employee time,mistakes, stress, lower morale, hampered performance and reduced profits or service.
Intolerance of those that are different from us in any way often sets the stage for anger based problems in our society. Unfortunately, people often ridicule, condemn and put down others who may physically look, behaviorally act, or mentally believe differently than they do. It is important to remember that “different” isn’t necessarily “bad,” as some misguided people reason. Getting angry at people or groups of people because they do not share our values or our ways of looking at the world (or they refuse to change to be likeus) leads to untold resentment, generations of conflict, and escalating feelings of hatred toward others.
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