Narcissistic Spouses Ripping You Apart Piece by Piece
Posted Dec 03 2012 4:31pm
Piece by piece, some small others large, your narcissistic spouse is
ripping your apart psychologically and attempting to destroy your
singular life. When we are married we expect some autonomy. This is not
possible with a narcissistic partner. They are fused with husband/wife
even when they are having affairs, ignoring your feelings, pretending
like you don't exist. You are their possession to be used according to
their delusional whims and obsessions. When you put you life's fate in
with a narcissist you have made a deal with the devil. Many spouses who
remain in these relationships decades later look back at what has become
of their lives. They are worn out, depressed, lack energy and hope and
feel desperate much of the time. Every once in a while they will have a
crumb dropped on them out of the blue by the narcissistic partner.
"Let's take a trip, dear." "I bought this outfit just for you." Let's go
out to dinner, just the two of us." Often these are empty promises to
bring you back into their camp---prison camp. Many go for this bait time
The narcissist is not going to
change---ever. You are married to a severe fixed personality disorder.
You are the one who will make the decisions and the changes. You cannot
trust the narcissist to do what he/she says in a moment of conjuring up
the early days of glowing seduction and no limits life possibilities.
now see through the delusion but are afraid to leave the narcissist.
Many with whom I have been in contact, reach inside and make the
decision to sever the marriage and reclaim their lives. This is a
tremendous challenge but those who have made this step report that now
they lead their own lives and are not overshadowed by the narcissist's
possessiveness, intimidations, humiliations, betrayals and
exploitations. Take heart, you can turn on to a different pathway and
lead the life to which you are entitled. To learn about the narcissistic
personality in-depth, visit my website:thenarcissistinyourlife.com
Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D. Telephone Consultation: United States and International Book: Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life Email: firstname.lastname@example.org