Narcissistic husbands are masters at creating the image of the
dutiful spouse. They are very convincing on the subject of loyalty to
their spouses. The majority of narcissistic husbands stray all of the
time. In fact they have multiple affairs going strong at any given time.
Some are one night stands; others are mistresses that go in and out of
their lives. There are special women that they can't resist and keep as a
sexual security blanket just in case they need to get through the night
of their sexual desires. It is amazing how adept these fellows become
at juggling many women. If they travel as a result of their business,
the sky is the limit. One or two women a night is not unusual. Some
professional men including narcissistic physicians, dentists, corporate leaders have ongoing affairs
with their female patients. Sex in the office--no problem. It's after
hours--why worry. There are many narcissistic physicians. Our society
rewards them with big money, prestige, even worship. Obviously, there
are incredibly fine physicians who are completely ethical and
professional. I am not speaking about them.
think your narcissistic husband is playing around on you, why would you
stay married. These days it is dangerous to your physical health. Think
of the cascade of stds
you can contract as a result of having sex with a husband who is having
intimate relations with so many different women. When you have sex with
this husband, you are having sex with every woman he has shagged. Not a
pretty picture. Self care is essential. The next factor is your
psychological and emotional health and what is the effect of this kind
of marital arrangement on your children. Marriages with narcissistic men
don't work because these men are highly pathological and do not
Make a wise decision. Sever the relationship.
Consider a formal separation and a divorce. This can be a difficult
process. You are entitled to be married to someone who truly loves and
protects you. Part of your healing can be facilitated by excellent
psychotherapy. Be sure you interview several psychotherapists.
support from those you trust and can call upon at any time. There are
many healing techniques like gentle yoga, meditation, and creative
pursuits that can become an integral part of your healing. Be kind to
yourself. Anyone can make the decision to marry a narcissist. They are
slippery fellows, difficult to detect. Learn from this life experience
and be grateful that you are taking assertive movement toward your
personal evolution. Learn about the narcissistic personality in-depth.
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Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D. Telephone Consultation: United States and International Book: Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life Email: firstname.lastname@example.org