How to get the most out of taking Anger Management Classes
Posted May 11 2010 5:16pm
Deciding to take an anger management class can be daunting. While some people take anger management as part of a court ordered requirement others take these programs for personal growth and self-improvement. Most quality programs are structured like a class and teach skills to participants in a variety of areas. Anger management courses typically involve the attendance of weekly sessions, one on one counseling or coaching, or can even be taken in an online format.
Participants can expect to learn skills in areas like assertive communication, emotional intelligence and empathy, improving judgment and impulse control, stress management, forgiveness and expectation management. Understanding these skills on an intellectual level for most people usually isn’t the issue. The primary problem that people have in getting the most out of taking an anger management class is actually practicing the skills.
Like any skill based task, repetition is key. Similar to learning how to properly swing a golf club, riding a horse, evening playing chess, practice is the way to master the skill. As the old saying goes, “practice makes perfect”. Most quality anger management programs will teach the skills necessary to better stay in control and respond more appropriately, but knowing these skills isn’t enough. In order to really master anger, so to speak, we must practice the skill enough times so that it becomes second nature.
An example of this might be learning to be more assertive. Properly asserting ourselves involves several components. First, our body language, tone of voice, volume and eye contact must be congruent with what we are saying. The message must include our feeling and a clear description of what we need the other person to do differently. Sounds easy right? Not unless one practices using proper assertive communication many times.
So in order to get the most out of taking an anger management course, remember, practice these skills as much as possible until they become part of who you are.