NEVER TAKE ANYONE FOR GRANTED - EVER...
The most important thing we do on this Earth is when we make connections with other people. Each connection we make with another human being is an important one. We have no idea how long that person will be in our lives, therefore we should treasure each moment we are given with them. Although it is not easy to lose someone you love, would it have been better to not have known them at all? I know I'm a better person for knowing each and every person that I've loved and lost.
For those that I briefly knew or knew through someone else - I believe that no matter how tragic the loss, I learned an important lesson. For example - I learned that committing suicide only hurts those that you leave behind. There were times in my life when I entertained the idea of suicide myself, but perhaps the constant suicides I had dealt with (subconsciously) prevented me from following through with my own plans of suicide?
I truly believe we all serve a purpose while we are here. We all have a lesson to learn, and once that lesson is learned it'll be our time to move on.
No one ever said life was going to be easy and that that we would never suffer any pain... Perhaps my journey is in coming to terms with death and realizing that although I can't prevent it from happening, I can certainly hold on close to the ones I love and never let them forget how much they mean to me. After all, you never know when you might not see them again. Don't hold grudges or say things you'll regret later because you might not have an opportunity to make things right again.
I certainly know that I'm guilty of holding a grudge and being stubborn - waiting for the other person to apologize for something they did to hurt me... but instead - what if we worked on forgiveness and compassion? I know we're not perfect individuals - we all have our faults - but we can at least make an effort. Because life is so short (and certainly not predictable) wouldn't it be better if we left each person we came in contact with a little bit better than before we met them? It definitely couldn't hurt to try.
When I first started typing about all the lost loved ones in my life I had no idea that I would come to any sort of conclusion. Heck - it might not even be the right one - but it certainly makes a lot of sense to me and for the meantime it seems like a pretty reasonable answer. I can't stop death from happening, but I can love the ones that are here with me now and never let them forget how much they mean to me.
At first I regretted sharing all this personal information (in two posts nonetheless) but as it turns out, I think it actually helped open my eyes a bit. I need to stop living like everyone around me is about to die and instead enjoy and cherish each moment I have with them. Could it all really be just as simple as that? Who knows? But I actually think I'm going to stop dwelling on death so much and focus more of my attention on the LIVING.
What an absolutely perfect quote to end this post with