Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers--Give to Yourself
Posted Jan 31 2013 12:50am
Daughters of narcissistic mothers have spent their lives as servants
and even slaves. Never wanted, treated like dirt, the subject of
physical and psychological abuse, being compared with other siblings and
declared inferior, their moments every day have been filled with fear,
humiliation and self degradation. Some adult daughters end up marrying
the living nightmare of their mother---another narcissist who in his own
style will pull all of the games and betrayals, and cruelties of her
mother. This is a repetition of the past that often occurs.
a daughter of a narcissistic mother, give yourself credit for surviving
this hellish life experience. You got yourself through when no one was
there to help you or even believe the dreadful things your NM did to
you. Your siblings have remained silent and if they are narcissistic
golden children they continue to blame and humiliate you. You are the
one that is scorned. They learned very well from your NM. A time arrives
when daughters of narcissistic mothers can no longer tolerate the
abuse. They know they don't deserve it and it is ruining their lives.
Many of them go No Contact indefinitely in order to move toward self
acceptance, inner peace, self appreciation and the full use of all of
their gifts and talents.This reclamation of the self takes place day by
day in treating yourself with kindness and expecting respect from those
around you. You can fulfill the promise of inner peace and security to
yourself. Create a routine that works with strengthening your body, mind
and psyche each day. Begin the day with a practice of meditation or
solitude that is quiet and private. Doing gentle yoga is very calming
and stretches the muscles and activates the parasympathetic nervous
system, that part of us that is calm and at ease. Learn to appreciate
your own company. Spend time in Nature even it it is for a short time.
Some people find great comfort with their pets. Journaling is a source
of free expression that is creative and healing. Learn to say "No" to
those who would manipulate you, deceive you or make you feel small.
Surround yourself with givers not takers.
You can heal
from your NM. Keep the faith in yourself, do the work of healing each
day and learn to feel entitled to use and enjoy all of your gifts and
talents. Visit my website:thenarcissistinyourlife.com
Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D. Telephone Consultation: United States and International Book: Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life Email: firstname.lastname@example.org