7 places to avoid when looking for dates – Dave’s Dating Tips
Posted Jun 14 2012 11:24pm
Places you should never go to find a date
People with a mental health challenge or who are in recovery want and need a close loving relationship just as much as anyone else. Sometimes in our search for a close partner we look in all the wrong places. Here are a few of the places clients told me they found dates that I need to warn you about.
When people are sick they tend to attracted sick people. Now two people with disabilities can be a great match and a great support system for each other. Just makes sure you and your potential partner are headed in the direction of recovery not continued sickness.
Here are 7 places to avoid when looking for dates. There are good places to look; only these are NOT those good places.
1. Do not hang out around the V. D. clinic waiting for the easy ones.
When you pick a partner you pick a set of problems, different partner different set of problems. Try to avoid partners with incurable diseases. Remember when you sleep with a partner you are sleeping with all their ex’s. People with a history of sexual problems are likely to continue to have those problems. I know there are exceptions to every rule, but is this one you want to take a chance on?
2. Avoid crack houses or bars
Lots of people with an alcoholic ex get a divorce, and then their friends take them out to celebrate at — you guessed it – a bar. They meet someone; fall in love, only to discover that the new partner is — an alcoholic. People active in their addiction don’t have a place in their life for a new healthy partner. They are looking for someone who will enable them to keep drinking and using. People with an addiction are likely to be found in their natural habitat.
3. Don’t wait outside prisons for people with gate money.
Now if this is your old man or old woman getting out, that might be an acceptation. People do change, but give them time to find a job and a place to live before you sign on to put money on their books the next time they are away.
4. Homeless shelters are not prime dating spots
Sometimes bad things happen to good people. People are ending up homeless that never thought they would but if you are cruising this kind of place for a date what does that say about you? Does the word predator come to mind?
5. Don’t try to pick people up while at the psychiatric hospital
This is not the time or place to start a relationship. You both need to work on you. Actually come to think of it I know some people who met in a psychiatric facility and made a go of the relationship, but they didn’t hook up on the first hospitalization. Work on getting better first.
6. Avoid people who left domestic violence court and can’t go home because of the restraining order.
Just like some people keep hooking up with alcoholics or drug addicts there are people who keep being attracted to the strong forceful type. Then they are surprised when the relationship turns violent. If you were abuse as a child or are just out of an abusive relationship be especially alert for this type of a repeat pattern.
7. Avoid people with a lot of babies daddy’s or babies mothers.
Be especially cautious if the person you meet seems to have more children’s parents than they have children. Can’t tell you exactly where to find this sort of person but you will know then when you see them because there are just so many places they can’t go for fear of running into an ex.
So there are Dave’s 7 places to avoid when looking for people to date. Any of you have any other places you would care to add to this list? Any of you that found a great place to meet people to date that actually worked out and you would care to share?