And so, now she’s fifty and other random observations
Posted Nov 06 2008 11:40pm
As many of you know, I’ve not been in the “blogging mode” much for the last couple of months. It has been a time of great self reflection and evaluation however, as I’m not much to let time slip by too terribly long without making some sort of commentary on it.
And so I have. I’ve been evaluating my blog, my life, my friends, my marriage, and pretty much everything else that happens to find its way into the cross-hairs of my mind.
In some of my more reflective moments I’ve wondered about Madonna. No, not Madonna and child, but Madonna, the pop singer.
She turned fifty this year. I remember when she first hit the music scene in the early 80’s.
I, like her, was in my early 20’s. The times, they have-a-changed.
Those were days of tight jeans, crop tops (as we called them back then), lots of parties, dancing & generally making merry with life as I had little to no responsibility to face the next day.
It also meant I could stay up until 2 or 3:00 in the morning with no visible effects the following sunrise. Oh, yes, the times they have-a-changed.
So, Madonna looks good for her age, I think we can all agree on that. But, there is an element to her lack of aging that bothers me terribly.
Not that I begrudge her efforts to maintain her beauty or desire to continue to look attractive and well. It’s this notion that she can cavort with 20-something year old men, either in videos or as lovers and that it’s okay.
It’s not. It bothers me.
It sends a message that getting older is bad. Looking your age, acting your age and accepting your age is bad.
And for a woman who has spent her entire career sending the message that “she can be whatever she wants” it bothers me even more.
So, what, at 65 are you going to want a 30 year old lover? Really? I can’t come to terms with this. It just seems so unnatural and downright tacky.
And guess what?
I feel the same way about Mick Jagger, Keith Richards and that stupid Ron Wood for running around with 20-something year old women.
And do they really think it is because of how they look???? Mick, Mick, Mick………..
Can I just say, in the words of Chris Rock…….”Just because you can do something don’t mean it’s a f******* good idea!”
So, I just want to send a little shout out to Madge. It’s okay darlin’. You can be fifty. You’ve earned it. You don’t look attractive strutting around on stage with Justin Timberlake showing us how beautiful your legs are. In fact, you look rather desperate. Okay? Stop it.
I also hear it was a factor in the demise of her marriage. Her younger husband even wants her to be fifty. Listen up Madge, before it’s too late. You’re gonna end up old like the rest of us - except with a whole lotta money - and that won’t change a damn thing.
Okay, I don’t know about you, but I’m sick - of - this.
Yeah, Yeah, I know, nobody is forcing me to listen ad nauseum to the political talking heads who banter and bicker back and forth over every tiny thing.
And maybe it’s my age, but is there a cynicism now that used to be lacking in journalism?
I watched a few different news channels yesterday trying to get a different perspective on things.
I was shocked at the sarcasm, the hostility, the mockery and the down right mean spirited attitudes of those who are “delivering the facts”
Hey, I know Walter Cronkite is gone. Those days will never be here again - where there was a level of civility, respect and dignity in the public arena of politics.
No, I do not believe that people were less corrupt by their power, but there was a level of decorum that is remarkably absent today.
The barbs, the accusations and the slime flies with reckless abandon. And what has happened to the electorate?
Most feel shut out and that their vote won’t really matter much anyway. Things are rigged and we don’t have much of a shot.
Lest you begin to think that I am removing myself from the political process, you are wrong. I haven’t become that jaded.
I will absolutely go cast my vote on election day and I will continue to educate myself on who these people are and what they stand for.
But the last few weeks have only served to solidify in my mind that politics and politicians are not the answer to life’s ills.
There absolutely has to be something greater to look to that is just, good, loving and kind and that offers real hope…….not just the audacity of it. Real hope. That is God. Politicians will never be my savior.
Perimenopause - the series……….
Yes, it’s coming. No, I haven’t forgotten about it. I mentioned at the beginning of this post that I’ve been in reflective mode. It has actually served a purpose and believe it or not, it has not been avoidance.
You can look for the next post in the series sometime next week. I will introduce you to some of the symptoms of perimenopause. Till then……..