The purpose of Man-o-pause is to convey the positive images of masculinity. Many men question "what it means to be a man." Over the next few days I will contribute to this quest by listing qualities first described by Lou Owen on the Men Web's community newsgroup.
Part I - Relationship
Men teach and learn from others.
Men coach and encourage.
Men are peacemakers and negotiators.
Men mediate, arbitrate and facilitate.
Men comfort and nurture.
Men enjoy solitude and companionship.
Men are good friends.
Men can keep a confidence.
Men are faithful, sincere and decent.
Men take pride in their achievements.
Men try to keep their community safe.
Men are philanthropic and generous.
Men are helpful, kind and thoughtful.
Men are compassionate and sympathetic.
Men cheer people up when they are down.
Men are tender and gentle.
Men are loving.
Men debate and discuss.
Men like fair play.
Men like joking with others.
Men entertain others.
Men protect and rescue others from harm.
Men sacrifice themselves for their family.
Men sacrifice themselves for the greater good.
Men are good parents.
Men lead others.
Men are patient.
Men are honorable.
Men are honest.
Men create laws to protect others.
Men are tolerant and accepting.
Men are good listeners.
Men respect themselves and others.
Men value all life and appreciate nature.
Imperfect humans though we are, it is the striving toward a virtue that distinguishes a man. If there is a quality or virtue that you currently do not possess, use the "as if" technique. This is a powerful and successful system to achieving personal transformation.
The steps are simple:
Step 1: You mentally focus on what you want to become. One virtue at a time. Step 2: You imbue that image with feeling. Imagine someone who exhibits that trait and identify with him. Step 3: You walk away with knowing and certainty in your stride.
Eventually, you become the virtue toward which you strive. This is how I learned patience.