To quote Congressman Bill Richardson (Congressional Record, H3905-H3906, May 24, 1994):
“Recognizing and preventing men’s health problems is not just a man’s issue. Because of its impact on wives, mothers, daughters, and sisters, men’s health is truly a family issue.”
While I truly believe that more emphasis needs to be put on men getting healthcare when they need it, I do have an issue with some aspects of men and their health.
I have seen and heard, all too often, stories of men who won’t go see a doctor when they need to have something checked. I know of women who have begged their husband or partner to go to the doctor, to the hospital. I know men who have steadfastly refused until they became so ill that it’s no longer their decision and their wife or partner arranges for the care.
Are the women really helping them? Or are they enabling the men to behave the way they do? Is it really a woman’s role to worry and beg their male partners to take care of themselves? Or is this some sort of power trip that some men play?
I have a feeling that many of the men who read this blog are already men who are taking care of their health. After all, they’re on-line looking for information and reading what’s available. But what about those who don’t? Those who live with what I call the “ostrich syndrome,” putting their head in the sand and ignoring it all?
Men, what do you think about what I say? Am I way off base? If so, please help me understand. It’s hard to watch a close friend go through this with her partner. He had to be close to death before he agreed to be seen. After being sick for over a year. That’s just so not right.