
Thank you so much for this thoughtful post. I feel that I've constantly put myself in the position of being an eternal student, but I think that it becomes problematic when you consistently find yourself in the position of effortful seeking. There's also such a surfeit of information out there on spirituality that it can be overwhelming to sort through all of it. As much as I appreciate all the Deepaks and Waynes of the world, I think that ultimately I don't find that their work really speaks to me. Over the years, I think I've become much more skillful at identifying the books, retreats, workshops that I need in order to evolve in my own unique way, and it isn't as overwhelming as it used to be because I've taken myself out of that place of constant seeking. It's like that whole idea of when the student is ready, the teacher appears--and that teacher can take on so many different guises--and this generally happens when you're not even looking!
I've also begun to accept that I'm not simply the student--I'm also the teacher, and I already have everything I need within myself. When I remind myself of this, the books--while they can be useful guides--help to awaken that spirit of self-sufficiency rather than drown it out with conflicting messages.
Hi Diane--thanks for your words. Your post was great food for thought. I think it's about coming to a place of balance. There are so many terrific resources out there but I've also been in the position where I completely relinquish all authority and belief in myself--and when you are constantly seeking the answers outside yourself, you will never truly be satisfied, I think. And sometimes we can also use the books, retreats, and workshops as crutches to validate ourselves and feel better, which can lead to a whole lot of avoidance and denial of some of the issues we are meant to work through.
I personally love meditation retreats as a way of coming back to myself and in some ways, letting go of doctrines. It's a paradox, I guess--there are many doctrines out in the world that can be really useful and wonderful, but ultimately, they are only descriptions of things rather than the ultimate thing itself. Only by going deep within ourselves can we find that "ultimate thing."
I love workshops and trainings. They are fun to me, in the way going to a football game is fun for other people. So if you go to them with that in mind - that you simply enjoy them, and you like the community and the positive energy you get - then what is the harm? Besides the whole issue of needing to get some CEUs to keep your RYT alive or whatnot...it's good to get away from your life and take a weekend or a day or two to connect with other spiritually minded people.
As for the self-help books, I used to read more of these and now I don't...because I don't think I need any more of these answers. I already have the tools I need to make progress with myself. If I do read these books now is it to keep up with the field and get new ideas for my clients, because that's my business. (And I do enjoy it.)
There is a point at which you can keep searching because you think you aren't healed enough. I've certainly done that...though, to be fair, until my health is 100% normal (I have CFS), the fact is, I'm not healed "enough." But it's true, sometimes you need to stop putting the books away and start actually letting the past go once and for all.
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Posted by Diane C.
I love learning. Learning new things -- whether it's about myself or a topic that I'm interested in or the world in general -- is seriously pleasureable for me (in fact, my passion for learning has been lovingly termed voracious). When I was in college, I'd often hear people call classmates who were pursuing higher education "forever students" who were "putting off their entry into the real world." Well, I'm in the "real world" but I still consider myself a forever student.
I've experienced a lot these past couple of years -- meditation retreats, yoga therapy trainings, yoga workshops, yoga conferences, yoga retreats (not to mention the dozens of books I've read on every topic from Kundalini to meditation to somatics and anatomy). You name it, I've likely heard of it, studied it, attended it. Recently I've been laying low, so to speak. I'm currently enrolled in a 500-hour training but am doing little else in terms of retreats, workshops, etc. (can't say that I've put the books down though -- I have a bit of a book addiction [this is where the voraciousness comes in]). Why, you ask? I think the most appropriate answer to that question is overwhelm.
Walk into any bookstore today and check out the Self-Help section or the Eastern Studies section and what do you see? Hundreds of books to help you deal with this, examine that, improve this, get rid of that. Perhaps we pick of one of these books because we're intrigued by the title. We scan the back cover and think, "Hmmmm...sounds interesting." Then there's the wanting to buy the book because we think it'll give us something (whether that's knowledge or the information to make a change or a pep talk or whatever value we've placed on the message conveyed by the particular book). Believe me, I've been there, done that.
Not too long ago, I simply stopped and reevaluated. I sat down and listed the trainings that I had taken. I wrote down the things/techniques I had learned and noted which ones I found to be helpful. Needless to say, I wrote a lot. As I looked through my extensive lists I asked myself whether or not I was applying what I learned. A meditation retreat is a wonderful thing, but the true value of meditation comes from practicing it regularly. Of course who has time to do that when you're hitched to the next thing (be it a workshop or a conference or a training)?
Yes, my friends, there comes a time when you have to ask yourself why you're seeking the information (and are you ever going to use it?). I happen to think that knowledge for the sake of knowledge is a wonderful thing. Still, all of this yoga, meditation, self-help stuff can get mighty pricey. So, the question of why becomes important. I have a friend who has an enormous list of certifications in the yoga/meditation/self-help arena. He's ever-so-proud of this list and he always seems to be taking another workshop/training. One day we were talking and I asked him whether or not he used any of the techniques that he had learned (I was especially curious about one in particular because he waxed poetic about the amazing effect it had on him during his 10-day stay at the retreat center). For a second he looked sheepish before he replied, "no." When I asked why not, he mumbled something about not having enough time.
Hmmmm...perhaps we need a workshop/book about how not to get overwhelmed by all of the wonderful yoga/meditation/self-help options out there? Please don't misunderstand -- I'm not condemning the fact that there's a wide variety of "stuff" out there. I think it's wonderful. In fact, it was through a lot of sampling and trial and error with all of this "stuff" that I found my "stuff" or what works for me. I'm just saying that the temptation to search for "the" thing can get a bit out of control. For there comes a time when you have to put up or shut up.
"You've been to Kripalu 25 times? Great."
"Do you ever put into practice anything that you learned while you were there? No? Gee, that's not so great."
When a friend and I recently finished a training we had a wonderful chat about what we were going to do next. More training, of course. Why? Because we didn't feel "ready." We didn't feel it was "enough." As a yoga therapist I feel obligated to get as much training as I can. I've spend a lot of time and money to do just that. After all, I want to help people, not harm them. Still, the question burns in the back of my mind -- "when will it be enough?"
From a yoga therapy standpoint, I know that I always continue to train/recertify. As a person who wants to live joyfully and improve herself, I wonder how many yoga/meditation workshops/retreats/classes/books will be enough. I know in my heart that to get out you have to "go in" and that the guru is in ME not in a workshop or a retreat or a class per se. Yet there's that hook when I look at yet another Kripalu or Omega or Integral Yoga catalog.
The good news is that I do put into practice what I've learned through my various trainings, workshops, et al. The bad news is that the amount that I've learned is so overwhelming that there aren't enough hours in the day to put it all into practice (although my clients do seem happy to reap some of the benefits of my voracious learning appetite). Now I find myself quietly taking stock, knowing that what I've learned doesn't mean anything unless I actually USE it.
Right now I'm just going with my gut and I'm cutting back in the inflow of info into my brain. I'm simply building a little dam to ensure that I'm not flooded. And I'm taking a long, hard look at whether I'm making the most of what I've done. After trial and error I found a meditation technique that really works for me. Am I doing it? Not as much as I could, that's for sure.
So, I pose the question to you, my dear readers -- how much is enough? How much is too much?
Namaste!