It’s been a while since you have heard from me. As you may know, my mom had been very sick,
fighting cancer, so my attentions have been with her and helping her in her last
days. At just after 5:30 on the evening
of December 27th, mom succumbed to cancer.
But I am not going to dwell on the sadness, rather I would like to tell you
a story about something that happened that really touched my heart in moms last
The story actually begins back in October.
I had received an email from the website www.rockscarlove.com . For those of you who know, you know Rock Scar
Love is a fantastic website run by Amy Tippins.
According the websites banner, “Rock Scar Love is inspiring passionate lives through clothing. We celebrate
sexy scars, the lessons they teach us and the strength they create.” But in October, Amy added a hand-made crystal
awareness bracelet, made with Swarovski Crystals.
I remember I was sitting with mom
when I received this email, so I pulled it up on her iPad so that she could see
a better picture of it since I could enlarge the picture on the iPad. Mom took one look at this bracelet, one word
slipped from her lips: “Beautiful!” I
then asked her if she would like a transplant awareness bracelet to commemorate
mine and Tommy’s transplant surgery earlier in the year, and she said yes, and
asked if I could get it for her for Christmas.
Fast forward to mid-December…moms
condition had degraded to the point that we had hospice overseeing her final
days, and they had been with her for about a month. Needless to say, I had lost track of time, of
days, of everything. Suddenly, its
December 15th and I am holding moms hand when I realized that I
never ordered the bracelet that she had wanted.
I immediately sent an email to
Amy Tippins explaining the situation to her and I asked her if she could help
expedite the bracelet so that I could give it to mom for Christmas. I was asking a lot of Amy, especially just
before Christmas, and she could have easily said that it was too difficult to
get it to me in time for Christmas. But
she didn’t, rather she and Rock Scar Love came through big time !
Hospice had been telling us most
of the week that mom was close to death, so I was hoping to get the bracelet in
time. I received moms bracelet on the 21st. By this time mom’s condition had continued to
deteriorate, she was no longer speaking with the exception of a word or two
every now and then. It was unclear how
much mom was understanding what was going on around her. But something
interesting happened when I went to put it on her...now mind you, she is in and
out of consciousness, and while still asleep, she lifted her left arm off the
bed, sort of as if to tell me "please put it on this hand." I placed the bracelet on mom’s wrist as she
slept, but I still spoke to her and told her what I was doing and what I had
put on her wrist. Sometime later that
day mom awoke slightly as I was sitting beside her on her bed. What happened next was absolutely incredible
to me (excuse me for a second here while compose myself…)…
I had not immediate noticed that
mom was awake, but then she lifted her wrist towards her face, and with her
eyes half open looked at her bracelet, and in the next motion, mom reached out
and put her hand on my arm. It was as if
mom was saying thank you and that she liked her new bracelet – at least that is
what I want to believe.
The kidney transplant awareness bracelet
looked absolutely gorgeous on mom, and I couldn’t have been happier to have
been able to give it to her just days before she passed away. I owe a huge thank you to Amy Tippins and
Rock Scar Love ( www.rockscarlove.com )
for allowing me the opportunity to do this one last thing for mom. I would actually urge anyone who wants to
spread the word transplants, that you visit Rock Scar Love and pick yourself up
a t-shirt or two, and even take a look at the awareness bracelet.
This whole situation actually
reminded me of a Christmas song by the group NewSong released back in 2000
called “The Christmas Shoes”, and subsequent movie of the same name staring Rob
Lowe in 2002. The chorus of the song
goes like this:
Sir, I want
to buy these shoes for my Mama, please
It's Christmas Eve and these shoes are just her size
Could you hurry, sir, Daddy says there's not much time
You see she's been sick for quite a while
And I know these shoes would make her smile
And I want her to look beautiful if Mama meets Jesus tonight
It’s that last line that gets me,
and sort of reminds me of my situation with mom. In a sense, I wanted mom to look beautiful if
she met Jesus that night.
As I said, the bracelet was
beautiful on her, and she looked stunning when she met Jesus and got to see my
Dad and my sister, Linda, who had both previously passed away before her.
I Love You, Mom…Thank you for
everything…You Lived a Full Life !!!