Have you ever felt like your world has turned upside down? Do you look around and wonder ...how did I ever get to this place?
Lately, that seems to be more common than you may think. Can you identify with any of the following?
Unable to pay your bills
Death of someone very close to you
Owing more than your house is worth
My friend Sue gave me a book called " The Upside of Down" by Dr. Joseph M. Stowell. I've found much wisdom as I read the pages of this book.
We all have trials in this life. As believers, the Bible says to expect trials.
But we do have a choice as to ...how we respond.
Do we learn the lessons that these trials provide? Do we learn to persevere?
I wrote another post called Life Isn't Easy concerning some of the reasons we may suffer trials.
But have you ever gotten to the point of feeling overwhelmed by the trials?
I know that for me, there are times when I tend to isolate myself because it's too hard to put on a happy face. And yet, I'm not the type of person who goes around like a martyr or wanting people's sympathy. I'm a fighter and I don't give up easily.
But sometimes it's just hard to go about normal activities like going to church or meetings with friends. When they greet you with a smile and say "how are you?". Do they really want to know or are they just being polite?
I think people are often uncomfortable about what to say when they know you're going through difficulties.
So, here's a few of my thoughts for people who have friends who are in the midst of suffering:
Sometimes the best thing is say nothing
Don't give advice about what they should do
Don't try to cheer them up by saying something like things will get better
Listen more than you speak
Don't judge them and tell them what they're doing wrong unless it's blatant sin
A simple hug is wonderful
Send a card telling them you're thinking of them and praying for them
Let your friendknow you're there for them
I may be way off base with this and so I'm open to your suggestions and thoughts on this topic. Maybe you have a friend who is going through difficulties or maybe you are the one? Why not share what you do or what helps you during these times?