The most important relationship is the one you have with yourself.
The most important conversations are the ones you have with yourself.
These points, while totally legit, have kind of become over-used and turned into cliches. And it’s time we re-write the script.
If you’re a frequent visitor and fellow soul sister (or brother!), then you know the most important relationship is the one you have with oursef. And you know the most important conversations are the ones you have with yourself. But what does that even mean?
It means that our thoughts are our conversation with the Universe. What we are thinking is the message the Universe is hearing. That’s why we’re so encouraged to change our thoughts in the personal development world. It’s not easy – but it’s worth it.
One of my clients has gotten to this stage where she’s been doing the work for a few months and ready to start leaping and trying to have faith that the net will catch, but her ego is sneaking in and telling her to quit. She’s getting frustrated and says stuff like, “I’m tired of witnessing my fears. It’s so much work. It’s hard. I’m not seeing results.”
Of course you’re not, darling! The Universe HEARS what you think and it responds accordingly. No, not to punish you – but because it respects you and loves you that much. The Universe is Loving and, therefore, has a lot of respect for your free will. The Universe respects your freedom to choose, so it can’t make you change. Only you can.
Can you relate to this? Have you thought that maybe the reason you’re not seeing the results you want in your life is because you’re not feeling the way you want to feel? You’re not tired of witnessing your fears. You’re tired of feeling like crap and your ego is trying to convince you that your fears will save you. But they won’t – they’ll keep you stuck and “safe.” And the way we get un-stuck is really viscerally feeling in our bodies how we want to feel in life.
Try this with me:
Think of one thing that you want: a career, relationship, friend, mentor, coach, material thing. Whatever comes to mind first.
Now, close your eyes and take a deep breath and ask yourself, “Why do I want this?”
Now, close your eyes and take a deep breath and ask yourself, “What am I really chasing after?”
What did you come up with?
More often than not, we’re not chasing after a thing – we’re chasing after a feeling(happiness, love, fulfillment, acceptance, etc.) and we think that a material thing will help us achieve that feeling. And we’ve fallen prey to a lot of the stuff we’ve picked up from society, one of them being that material things make us happy.
Here’s the thing, though. You already ARE it! Whatever you are chasing after…you already have it. It’s that part of your soul calling you to become more of who you really are. Yes. You ARE it. The Universe is abundant, and that means there is enough for everyone to go around. There is more-than an ample supply of whatever you want and need in life. All you have to do is practice BEING it . The more you focus on BEING love, fulfilled, etc., the more the Universe reflects that back to you.
Think of someone you really admire – someone who has what you want – and start DOING what they do! It doesn’t matter if it’s sloppy (did you see my first blog post 2 years ago?). Just START and take action. That part of you wants to be expressed and you gotta nurture that part of you by taking that spiritually guided ACTION!
What is ONE step that you can take today towards fulfilling the feeling you’re chasing after? What is ONE thing that someone else is doing that you want to be doing too? Start now. Don’t wait! We need you.