There are obvious, concrete reasons why any number of people have achieved success, such as coming up with a brilliant idea, artistic excellence, exceptional timing of market forces, and many more.
Excluding this segment of the success population and looking at the rest of us, some succeeding, others failing, with no clear indicators as to why the chips fell one way vs the other, the question becomes: “Is there something we’re doing to manifest our success or failure?”
I suspect there is. I suspect that, to a large degree, many of us fail because of our Inner Critic, a part of our mind that is incessantly finding ways to minimize us, invalidate us, deflate us and discourage us.
Our Inner Critic tells us, “You’re not good enough.” “You’re not pretty enough.” “You’re not smart enough.” “You’re unlucky.” “You’re a loser.”
Our Inner Critic bathes us in guilt, shame and self-loathing such that, at an unconscious level, we are forever doubting our capacity to succeed and forever anticipating our failure.
Consequently, the Law of Atttraction works with our negative, cynical, pessimistic mindset to generate perpetual failure and disappointment in our lives.
Additionally, our Inner Critic’s loathing of us, which is the source of all the negative messages in our mind about ourselves, gets translated into self-sabotaging behaviors, such as avoidance, procrastination, being late for appointments and engagements, forgetting commitments, making impulsive decisions, overeating, oversleeping, over-medicating, the list goes on and on. The result is setbacks, derailed plans, and failure.
The point is this: If our failure is a result of unconscious, self-sabotaging behaviors, which are a result of a harsh, judgmental Inner Critic that whispers in our ear 24/7 that we are unworthy, then, in order to turn that failure into success, we must whisper back.
We must neutralize our Inner Critic, give it no power, by consistently challenging its voice and replacing it with a voice that encourages instead of discourages, a voice that builds us up rather than puts us down, a voice that reminds us of our strengths rather than our weaknesses.
As we choose to not listen to our Inner Critic’s dark, desperate, catastrophic thoughts, deciding instead to maintain a positive, optimistic, hopeful and grateful attitude, we stop sabotaging ourselves.
What can be done to help speed up this cognitive-behavioral process?
Every morning when we first get up and every evening before going to sleep, we affirm to ourselves three times, with great passion and conviction: “I choose to not attack myself. I give no power to my Inner Critic.”
As we use this simple affirmation at night to program our subconscious mind to neutralize our Inner Critic, and as we use it each morning to re-Mind ourselves to pay attention and make choices that are more likely to lead to positive outcomes and the fulfillment of our dreams, we encounter less resistance, greater cooperation, and more frequent synchronistic opportunities.