"We so often look so long and regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us." -Alexander Graham Bell
This past year I’ve spent a great amount of time trying to figure out what I want to do with my life. I’ve done a lot of soul-searching and trying to understand who I am. Not who I think others want me to be, but who I have been created to be. I’ve considered what I am naturally good at and how that can be incorporated into a career. I’ve set goals based on these thoughts and have found motivation and purpose by doing this. It has helped me see of what use my presence on earth can be. This is not selfish at all. Everyone is gifted in different ways and it is important for all aspects of our health that we utilize these gifts and feel that we are making a difference. But what happens when things don’t work out the way we would like for them to? We set goals for ourselves and see what we think may be the golden opportunity to pursue our passions and strengthen our abilities, but the door shuts before we even get to it. It can be discouraging and disheartening, but don’t give up. Things happen for a reason, I truly believe it. Think about every time you’ve been convinced something should happen the way you want it to. Think back to the person you were just in love with and wanted to marry back in middle school or high school. When I think about that it puts it in perspective for me. Thank goodness I didn’t get what I wanted! One day you’ll look back on the door that slammed shut in your face and realize that the door opening behind you was just the right path for you to enter into. The hardest part is turning around and leaving the entryway to what you thought was the only way for you to go. If we dwell on all of our missed opportunities or disappointing turn of events we will miss the other possible directions our lives can take that will be a better use of our talents and abilities. Disappointment, unfortunately, is a part of life and is something we must all deal with. One of my earlier posts dealt with pain and how to deal with that in a way that is beneficial for our mental, spiritual, and physical health. Disappointment definitely falls into the painful category. What’s great about life is that there are so many ways to utilize your gifts and talents. If one way fails to work out, take your disappointment and use it to empower your search for another open door. Of course this is easier said that done. Once you allow yourself to acknowledge the disappointment you feel, pick yourself up, and continue on your journey to become and enjoy the person you are created to be.