It’s time to take the women’s rights movement to the next level, which is inside you. It’s time to clear out what’s holding you back, inside your body and soul, from full feminine empowerment and the ease of living your right life in a balanced way. The women before us made great strides in the freedoms we now enjoy as women in the Western world. What’s still holding us back from fully claiming our human rights of equality are old patterns of being we learned as children, behaviors we inherited from our families, and the image of women in mainstream media, all of which are felt in our bodies.
How your body feels has more to do than you might realize with your thought patterns, habits of relating to your emotions and body, and to your childhood conditioning. It’s common for pelvic pain symptoms to occur or flare up during and after emotionally difficult experiences. Even our limiting beliefs and oppressive conditioning about what it is to be a woman can cause physical pain and dysfunction in our bodies, especially in the pelvic bowl which houses the female organs.
There is shame and confusion around what it is to be a woman. We all want to be treated as fairly and as equally as possible. Yet we learn early on that girls are valued differently than boys and that fair and equal often doesn’t happen in reality. As little girls we get the message that our appearance is what counts the most in being a valued member of society. We’re traumatized and we don’t even know it.
This translates to feeling like there’s something wrong with us, we aren’t good enough, or we’re not worthy. We cope with this denial of our true selves by changing our behavior to protect ourselves, sometimes by acting out, joining activist movements, burying emotions inside, or putting up a happy façade, as if we’re okay with being treated as less than. Then we try even harder to be perfect to prove that we’re good, to earn love and acceptance through other people’s reactions to us. We try so hard to be the person our parents want us to be and later who our husbands and children need us to be as we desperately try to prove our worthiness.
We don’t realize we hold the shame of being women in our physical bodies. Symptoms can show up as depression, eating disorders, perfectionism, chronic pain, anxiety, addiction, and any number of other ways. It showed up for me as chronic pelvic pain and I’ve witnessed this in many of the women I work with. It’s the pain of not fitting in, not being validated for who we are at our core, the shame of feeling like we’ve done something wrong, or we don’t belong, and not knowing why.
What’s often the cause of this dis-ease is the inner wounded child self has taken refuge behind heavy protection. This affects our ways of being in the world which gives the illusion of keeping us safe from harm. The wounded child remains frozen in time behind her pain of protection from further suffering. The wound is from having what comes most naturally to her being denied, devalued, disapproved, or abandoned. So she lives her life for other people, does her best to fit in and not to ruffle tempers while she suffers in silence, forgotten and alone, desperately trying to stay safe.
All of this discomfort gets stuck in the body, especially in the pelvic area. The way to heal this disconnect is to go inside and retrieve the wounded self through exploring sensations in the body. Once you can connect with and understand the underlying conditions of the energy that’s behind your pain, you can make the changes that are needed to shift and heal the wounded self, empower her, and bring her back into being an integral part of who you are and how you show up.
Value and Strength
Once you can access where you are stuck you can create your own safety. You value yourself as a woman and individual in a very real and natural way without having to prove anything. You find the strength of being a woman, living with viable self-esteem, showing up authentically and confident with your natural way of being in the world. You set the expectation for other people to treat you this way too. This is what can heal your pain and free up your energy to be vital in your body and soul.
You Are Priceless
Choose to value femininity. Recognize the pricelessness of it in your family and your community. Model for your friends, families and coworkers what it is to be whole and empowered. When you heal the conflict within you and live the truth of your femininity, you heal the suffering of your wounded self and shift for the better now and into the future cultural beliefs, expectations, and value placed on what it is to be a woman.
Endorsed Coach – Gail Kenny
When I found Abigail I had been struggling with chronic pelvic pain (including pain in my lower abdomen, IC symptoms, yeast infections and myofascial pain) for over 20 years. Mind-body coaching was the last thing I needed to truly get my life back. I know first-hand the challenges of healing chronic pelvic pain and I’m well prepared to help you with your healing. I’m also a certified Martha Beck life coach and trained psychic.
I work with people in physical pain who have already tried all the normal solutions. I help them heal old dysfunctional habits of thinking and feeling. I teach them to relate to their body, emotions, mind, and soul in new ways, creating relief from underlying tension, healing pain from the inside out and getting back to living the life they want. Start with your free pain relief practice here .