Spiritual Solutions to Everyday Problems: HELP! I Can’t Meditate!
Posted Nov 20 2013 9:05am
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Q: Hey Heather, I love how into meditating you are and I’m so excited for the release of Soul Sessions next month … but I have the HARDEST time meditating! I can’t focus and my thoughts are everywhere so I just don’t do it at all. Any tips for beginning mediators?
A: I get this question a lot. Before I answer it, let me ask youa question. What would you say if I asked you to go out and run a marathon? You’d probably say, “Hell no.” What would you say if I asked you to go out and walk a mile? You’d probably say, “Hell yes, I can do that!” That’s the approach we want to bring to meditation.
When I started meditating, I literally began by sitting and trying to be still for two minutes. It was frustrating and really, really hard because all of my thoughts were going everywhere and all over the place. I couldn’t quiet them down! I love the analogy that Jack Kornfield uses. He says that training ourselves to meditate is like trying to train a puppy to sit still. When you’re training a puppy to sit, it runs away. But every time it runs away, you patiently try to bring it back to its sitting spot. Same thing goes for your mind in meditation. When you notice a thought coming in, let it pass and then gently guide yourself back to being still. You can always ask the Universe to help you become more still. Sometimes, when my mind is clouded with thoughts, I will ask the Universe, “Please help me quiet my mind. Thank you.” Instantly, I notice myself breathing more deeply and a sense of peace washes over me.
Be patient with yourself! Just like you work out to build physical muscles, meditation is an awesome opportunity for you build your mental muscles. When you hit the gym and start eating better, it usually takes your body up to 3 months for you to see the physical results. Same deal for meditation. It’s a practice, so be compassionate and patient with yourself as you train yourself to build those mental muscles of presence, peace, and calm.
Tip #2: The way you’re breathing is so important, not just for meditation, but for all day long. Last year, I learned from my Kundalini practice that my breathing was sonot good. I was actually suffocating myself! Check yourself with me now. Place your hand on your stomach. As you breathe, you should be inhaling and exhaling through your nose. That’s right. No mouth involved. As you inhale, your stomach should extend outward. As you exhale, your stomach should contract inward. Try it a few times. I know it feels awkward but, trust me, this will change your entire life experience. It allows you to increase your lung capacity and calm your nervous system even more.
What do YOU want to read about. What are you looking for guidance on? What are you loving that you want to know more about? If you are looking for a spiritual solution to a problem that you are having, feel free to post it on my Facebook , Twitter, or Instagram or you can shoot me an email . I’m here for you!