Last weekend, after talking to John about a girl we just met who kept saying negative things to me, he gave me some brilliant advice. He said, "I have learned a lot about myself, and I've embraced everything about me - both good and bad - and I have learned to take negative comments, such as those you have recently experienced, in stride. In situations like that one, I try to set the record straight by telling them that I am fully aware of who I am, the good and the bad, and then I just let the comments roll off my shoulder. I am a good person, and that is all that matters to me." The more I thought about what John said, the more I realized how it relates to how we compare ourselves to others. As women, we should embrace ourselves for who we are and realize that we are not perfect, but that we all have our flaws. We can try to improve ourselves to fix these flaws - working harder to run faster or working out to lose weight, as a few examples - but we just need to accept things that we cannot change.
The truth of the matter is that comparing ourselves to others is only going to create internal pain. The best part about you and me is that we are different, and that should be embraced! Quit trying to get the approval of others, and work on loving yourself unconditionally...that is the key to a life of happiness.
In the past few years, I have learned to embrace both my strengths and my weaknesses, and I have learned to love who I am for the good person I am inside and not for what I look like on the outside. It really is true that "the best accessory a girl can own is confidence" and this confidence shines through brightly on the outside. So, instead of beating yourself up for the things you aren't, praise yourself for who you are! Now is the time to quit looking for acceptance in other peoples' eyes, and look for it within yourself instead. Figure out exactly who you are as a person and how you will use your talents to do good things. The world will thank you for it!