Many people think of themselves as losers. There are days when I feel like a loser with a capital 'L.' I don't want to be bothered with anyone, not even myself. I just want to go under the covers and sleep for days. When I do tasks attempt to do tasks, they take forever or never get done at all.
There are times when I ask myself, " who or what made me feel like a loser today?" Maybe it was something I ate. It could be the man who stepped on my foot on the train and didn't say 'excuse me.' My boss could also be to blame, especially when he berates me on something I could have done better (or didn't do at all).
In the end, all of these external events lead to one factor: YOU!
I'm sure you heard many authors of books and blogs tell you about positive thinking or positive reinforcement. In Raja Yoga, this is called pratipasksha bhavana. I could sit here and tell you to replace negative thoughts with positive ones but it's really hard to do when you're in the eye of a drama storm and there seems to be no sunlight in sight.
So let's try this modification of positive thinking and tell me if it works for you. I think once you do this, you can never think of yourself as a loser:
Take solace and pride in small wins. You woke up this morning and got yourself to work? Congrats! You are a winner! You got on the train, someone stepped on your foot and you didn't yell nor scream? I don't see a loser. I see someone who won.
There are so many examples I can give in everyday life to think of yourself as a winner and pat yourself on the back for, it's not even funny. Of course, you will still have issues and drama that you will have to face and will bring you down. However, if you keep up this attitude (which is really looking at the bright side of things), that down feeling won't last too long. Appreciating the little things will make great strides in helping you deal with the larger things that you can't control.
So the next time you try this and say, "well See, I'm still a loser because of this, that and the third," I would respond by saying "no. You're not a loser. You're a winner in a number of losing games."
Let me know if that makes you feel better. If it helps, add, "thank the Lord" to whatever little thing you're patting yourself on the back for. You may not thank me in the short term but if you do this for a long period of time, you'll be amazed at your outlook on many things - good, bad, and indifferent.
In the meantime, stay strong, stay healthy, and fight dis-ease!