Over the past weekend I had the joyous opportunity to visit with family and friends, one of which is a single mom with a five month old baby son. As I held the baby and cooed and played with him, the mother asked me who he looked like, saying that her mom had said that he looked just like her brother, the baby’s uncle when he was a baby. Now, this was a loaded question and I knew it. I had been around her brother when he was a baby and he did not look like her brother. The baby looks very much like the baby’s father. The baby’s mom is at odds with the baby’s father. Knowing this, I knew what I was about to say would probably not sit well, however without hesitation I said the obvious, “He looks just like his father” to which a hurt look came over the mom’s face and she said to me “You could have lied to me, I like living in my illusions, everyone else lied to me”. She didn’t get mad at me, she knew what I was saying was true and as she said she was simply living in her illusions because of the trouble her and the baby’s father were having.
I love this person; she was immediately honest and aware of what she was doing. She knew that she was asking people to lie to her; she knew that she was living in an illusion and she was able to express her truth without batting an eye.
How many times do we do the same thing? How many times do we ask to be lied to? We all know the classic question that begs for a lie, “Do these pants make my butt look big”. We know that the person asking this question does not want to hear that yes their butt looks big, we know that the majority of the time they would rather us lie than to say that their butt looks big and by the way it has nothing to do with the pants.
Why do we want to be lied to? Why do we want to live in the illusions of lies? Why do we sometimes out and out ask to be lied to? What part of us needs to hear the lies?
Does love want to or need to be lied to? The short answer is no, love does not lie nor does it need to be lied to for love is without conditions and therefore love does not hide behind the fabric of a lie.
When we are truly aligned with our authentic self there is no need to ask to be lied to, there is no reason to hide from the truth. Lies are the breakfast of the ego. It is through lies that our ego can create illusions and it is these illusions which breathe life into the ego.
Think about this, if our ego is built on lies than our ego is as fragile as a house of cards. When the wind of truth blows the house of cards down we tend to go into an emotional meltdown as all of our illusions are lying on the floor of our reality. Often times people who are in a depressed state or are in a crisis mode or having a major breakdown are having this experience because one or many of their illusions have fallen apart. When the illusion is removed it often feels as though our world has fallen apart, and in many ways it is because our world, the world of illusions we created has indeed fallen apart and we feel lost without our illusions.
We have often heard people say as their world falls apart that they feel like they have been living a lie! No surprise there, most likely they had been living a lie! They most likely were living a lie that they created or at least were coconspirators in creating.
I think it is safe to say that most of us live in a state of illusion, that we create lies to feed our insatiable ego, that there may be parts of our life that our built on lies that we have created.
As we move forward in our journey, it is important that we become aware of the lies and illusions that we are living. As we become aware, we must accept that we are living a lie, we must accept that we may be asking people to lie to us in order to support our illusions. Once we accept that we are living a lie, that we are creating illusions then it is imperative that we dismantle the lies and remove the illusions and come one step closer to living our authentic life, living on purpose and living from spirit which is pure love.
Note that at first it may be uncomfortable, maybe even painful to dismantle our illusions; however the truth is that in time our illusions will fail us. When we consciously dismantle our illusions we then control and understand the transformation that is taking place and the result is joyful as we live from our authentic self rather than devastating when the wind of truth prevails and knocks the illusions out from under us.
Instead of asking to be lied to, ask for people in your life and for yourself to truly love you and have the courage to tell you the truth knowing that your love is not a condition of their response to your questions.
Live the love that you are!
Over the past weekend I had the joyous opportunity to visit with family and friends, one of which is a single mom with a five month old baby son. As I held the baby and cooed and played with him, the mother asked me who he looked like, saying that her mom had said that he looked just like her brother, the baby’s uncle when he was a baby. Now, this was a loaded question and I knew it. I had been around her brother when he was a baby and he did not look like her brother. The baby looks very much like the baby’s father. The baby’s mom is at odds with the baby’s father. Knowing this, I knew what I was about to say would probably not sit well, however without hesitation I said the obvious, “He looks just like his father” to which a hurt look came over the mom’s face and she said to me “You could have lied to me, I like living in my illusions, everyone else lied to me”. She didn’t get mad at me, she knew what I was saying was true and as she said she was simply living in her illusions because of the trouble her and the baby’s father were having.
I love this person; she was immediately honest and aware of what she was doing. She knew that she was asking people to lie to her; she knew that she was living in an illusion and she was able to express her truth without batting an eye.
How many times do we do the same thing? How many times do we ask to be lied to? We all know the classic question that begs for a lie, “Do these pants make my butt look big”. We know that the person asking this question does not want to hear that yes their butt looks big, we know that the majority of the time they would rather us lie than to say that their butt looks big and by the way it has nothing to do with the pants.
Why do we want to be lied to? Why do we want to live in the illusions of lies? Why do we sometimes out and out ask to be lied to? What part of us needs to hear the lies?
Does love want to or need to be lied to? The short answer is no, love does not lie nor does it need to be lied to for love is without conditions and therefore love does not hide behind the fabric of a lie.
When we are truly aligned with our authentic self there is no need to ask to be lied to, there is no reason to hide from the truth. Lies are the breakfast of the ego. It is through lies that our ego can create illusions and it is these illusions which breathe life into the ego.
Think about this, if our ego is built on lies than our ego is as fragile as a house of cards. When the wind of truth blows the house of cards down we tend to go into an emotional meltdown as all of our illusions are lying on the floor of our reality. Often times people who are in a depressed state or are in a crisis mode or having a major breakdown are having this experience because one or many of their illusions have fallen apart. When the illusion is removed it often feels as though our world has fallen apart, and in many ways it is because our world, the world of illusions we created has indeed fallen apart and we feel lost without our illusions.
We have often heard people say as their world falls apart that they feel like they have been living a lie! No surprise there, most likely they had been living a lie! They most likely were living a lie that they created or at least were coconspirators in creating.
I think it is safe to say that most of us live in a state of illusion, that we create lies to feed our insatiable ego, that there may be parts of our life that our built on lies that we have created.
As we move forward in our journey, it is important that we become aware of the lies and illusions that we are living. As we become aware, we must accept that we are living a lie, we must accept that we may be asking people to lie to us in order to support our illusions. Once we accept that we are living a lie, that we are creating illusions then it is imperative that we dismantle the lies and remove the illusions and come one step closer to living our authentic life, living on purpose and living from spirit which is pure love.
Note that at first it may be uncomfortable, maybe even painful to dismantle our illusions; however the truth is that in time our illusions will fail us. When we consciously dismantle our illusions we then control and understand the transformation that is taking place and the result is joyful as we live from our authentic self rather than devastating when the wind of truth prevails and knocks the illusions out from under us.
Instead of asking to be lied to, ask for people in your life and for yourself to truly love you and have the courage to tell you the truth knowing that your love is not a condition of their response to your questions.
Live the love that you are!