Living the Life of Your Dreams: Is It Difficult or Not?
Posted Sep 19 2013 10:05pm
Posted in | September 17, 2013 |
By guest author Ion Doaga
What dreams are you following?
Is it wealth, limousines and mansions?
Or is it a much humbler dream of having fewer worries, spending more time with the family, and finally living a balanced life?
Well, let me tell you a little story …
When my father passed away, I was 19. That day changed my life.
I just graduated from high school. I was trying to find a job, but nobody wanted to hire a young boy with no skills. I didn’t have many choices and I went to work in construction, which was an exhausting job. Each day after work I was tired as hell.
Every single night I was lying in my bed thinking about my life, my childhood, my dreams, and about my career. And one night I decided, that I didn’t like the way things were going.
I wanted to have a loving family and financial security. I wanted to have free time and be happy. I quit.
Soon I found a new job. It was a multilevel marketing business, where I had to bring people in and grow my own network. I started right away.
I told hundreds of people about this business. I arranged meetings with my sponsors. I worked intensely to accomplish a full year with only one affiliate in my network. That was my cousin.
I didn’t make a penny, which was painful to realize. So, I quit again.
I kept looking for another job, and soon I found the job I was happy with.
One day the phone rang. It was an old friend who was also looking for a job, but didn’t put much effort into it. I was happy to share my good news with him. After listening to my story he said, “I’m so happy for you my friend. You’ve always been lucky.”
That’s all he noticed in my story? I thought he’d appreciate the challenges I had to go through, and would take my experience as advice. But he summarized it all as “luck”.
I was upset.
People are driven by success stories, but they rarely pay attention to what stands behind those success stories. The willingness to fail, the hard work, determination, desire and skills – are all ingredients of any success story.
Unfortunately, people stop half way because they don’t know what to do next, or they overanalyze all available opportunities (looking for the easy shot).
Whether we like it or not, it happens to all of us. But why?
1. Habits speak louder than words
Wrong habits limit the possibility of success.
Your habits are an expression of whether you’ll get closer to your goal or you are heading in the wrong direction.
For example, if you want to have a fit and healthy body, but you spend most of the time watching TV and eating chips, you will fail. That’s obvious.
Your habits and goals must resonate in harmony.
2. Trying to be more efficient by multitasking
When you eat in front of the TV with your laptop open, browse Twitter and Facebook, chat with friends every so often, you get a great feeling of fulfillment. You feel incredibly efficient.
But, it’s exactly the opposite.
Multitasking does not make you more productive. It makes you feel like a heroic overachiever, but rarely more than that.
3. Choosing the wrong living standards
There is social pressure that makes us live up to the standards of the billboards. In fact, advertising is not selling products. It sells happiness, which sounds like this:
How happy I am with this toothpaste.
How cool I’m eating a hamburger at McDonalds.
I feel so good when I drink water. It gives me powers and I’m almost flying, if I drink one specific type of water.
… and so on.
We get brainwashed every day and we try to live up to these standards, but we can’t.
Social pressure is too strong and you feel that you can’t be wrong, you can’t be afraid, or you can’t be normal anymore.
4. Daydreaming without taking action
Dreams will remain just dreams if you don’t take necessary actions towards realizing them.
The majority of people will wait for the perfect moment to enter the game and win the battle with the least amount of efforts. It may work sometimes, but remember … you can’t win without getting your hands dirty.
Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated – Confucius
You can easily notice when somebody tries to make something too complecated.
You hear when a musician overcomplicates things. You see it when an interior designer overcomplicates things. You taste it when a chef overcomplicates things.
We overcomplicate by analyzing study after study about dieting, we make a science out of exercising, and we are called “smart” buyers because we analyze every little detail of the product.
This behavior enters every area of our lives and we are left facing enormous amounts of physical, mental and emotional clutter.
Make things less complex and you’ll find balance in your life.
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