If I asked you to write out your priorities in order, what would you put on that list?
I know I could write out a list that looks pretty similar to this one…My relationship with the Lord, Jonathan, Family & Friends, Church, Job…but if I’m REAL, that wouldn’t be very honest. That might be my intentions, but I don’t think my actions always reflect that. For example…I never go ANYWHERE without my cell phone. Ever. But I only bring my Bible with me when I go to church on Sundays and Wednesdays. If my priorities were truly in the order I listed, don’t you think those two things would be flip flopped?
Wanna know your priorities? Ask your family to list out what they think they are. And ask them to be HONEST. Not the pretty, packaged little list that they know are your intentions…
Women these days are expected to juggle many demands and responsibilities that come with each season of life. Unfortunately, many women feel inadequate, insecure, overwhelmed, and just plain TIRED. We often feel incapable of managing the many hats we wear and balancing the various responsibilities we carry. But here’s the deal. God never intended for us to feel this way!!
I feel like this is especially true in a Pinterest generation! Don’t get me wrong….I LOOOOVE me some Pinterest & it is one of my FAVORITE things on the internet! (Seriously, so many awesome tips, ideas, recipes, and a quick fix for everything- it’s genius!) But I’m afraid many of us spend hours each week looking at all of these things we never actually attempt or plan to make a reality. We take time away from our family pinning things we wish were a reality for us.
Seriously, you can look at my boards and see what my life might “look like” if I had my dream house that is crazy organized; an incredible wardrobe leading in all the latest fashion trends (oh, and in one of those AWESOME closets that are the size of my bedroom, please); homecooked, healthy, perfectly balanced, all organic meals for every meal that are cut into shapes & even match every holiday; daily craft & homeschool sessions; a SMOKIN’ bod with 6 pack abs, a tight booty, and toned arms; glowing skin & hair with flawless makeup application and perfectly curled hair; making all of my own cleaning products, laundry detergent, etc.; have a thriving career & perfectly balanced budget; hand sew all of our kids own clothes with everything monogrammed; all while living out all of the Scriptures & motivational quotes.
And y’all know as well as I do this list could go ON, and ON, and ON.
Does anyone else feel this way?? I don’t know about y’all, but most days I feel like I’m doing pretty good to just get my hair in a pony tail (not saying it’s brushed- but hey, who’s askin’?) & clothes that halfway match (except socks- they don’t count). I’m not saying Pinterest is a bad thing in ANY way, but I do see a trend- I feel like women are living lives with our priorities out of whack….and that is leaving us feeling like failures. Constantly overwhelmed, inadequate, and exhausted.
Y’all, God called us to live lives of PEACE!! Joy. Contentment. We have got to learn to recognize the Enemy’s lies and learn to combat them with the TRUTH of God’s Word. Man, there is SUCH freedom in that!
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Here are a look at some of the lies women believe about priorities:
“**THE LIE: 1) I don’t have time to do everything I’m supposed to do.
I know this one is SO true for me!!! I tend to WAY overload my plate, so my life always feels chaotic & hectic.
Nearly 70% of women surveyed said they believe this and it’s the number one lie they identify with. Women feel overwhelmed by how much they have to do and how little time they have to do it. As a result, many women are living breathless, frazzled, discouraged lives. Really, we have no more or less time than any other humans…we have 24 hours in a day, 168 hours in a week, and 52 weeks in a year. Our frustration comes when attempt to take on responsibilities that are not on His agenda. We establish our own priorities (or let others determine) the priorities of our life, rather than taking time to discern what God wants us to do. Then we end up buried under piles of half finished, poorly done, or never attempted projects and tasks. We end up living with guilt, frustration, and haste, rather than enjoying the peaceful, well-ordered life he intends.
· There is time in every day to do the things God wants me to do. (Psalm 90:10-12; Luke 10:38-42; John 17:4; Acts 20:24; Ephesians 2:10) **ALL we have to do are the things God assigns us. (Notice that does not say the things “I want to do,” or “so & so wants me to do.”) It is powerful to ask the Lord every morning to order your steps so you can accomplish what HE wants from you.
“I have glorified thee on earth; I have finished the work thou gavest me to do.” - John 17:4
**THE LIE: 2) I can make it without consistent time in the Word and prayer.
Anyone else struggle with this one? I know I do! Even though it sounds crazy and may not be anything we would ever say out loud (because we know it sounds ridiculous), we live our lives as if we believe this. I can SO tell the days I don’t take time to do my quiet time or devotions…it’s amazing what those 10-15 minutes can do for my entire attitude and the whole course of my day!
The essence of Satan’s deception is that we can live our lives independently of God. If he can get us to live without a personal relationship, he knows we will feel empty. Satan knows if he can get us to operate on our own thoughts and ideas (without seeking the Lord and wisdom that comes only from God), he knows we will eventually get sucked into the world’s destructive way of thinking. We know the value of spending time along with God in His Word and in prayer, but too often we are “too busy” or too focused on the tasks of our day without spending adequate time with God FIRST. When we skip time with Him, we are basically saying we can do our own work, keep our home, handle our relationships, and deal with our circumstances on our own- WITHOUT His help. This is PRIDE, and we know what the Bible says about pride. (James 4:6; Proverbs 16:18)
· It is impossible for me to be the woman God wants me to be apart from spending consistent time cultivating a relationship with Him in the Word and prayer. (Job 23:12; Psalm 5:3; 119:147; Proverbs 2:1-6; 3:5-6; Matthew 6:25-34; 14:23; James 4:6)
· Apart from living in conscious union and dependence on Him, I cannot do anything of spiritual or eternal value. I can create a lot of activity and make a lot of decisions, but not that mater an eternal impact.
**THE LIE: 3) A career outside the home is more valuable and fulfilling than being a wife and mother.
I am going to write another whole post dedicated to this one…
Half a century ago, women decided we needed to be liberated- we needed freedom. They replaced words such as virtue, chastity, discretion, domesticity, submission, and modesty with words such as choice, divorce, infidelity, power, and equality. This demeaned marriage and motherhood and encouraged women to get out into workforce. In determining our priorities as Christian women, we must first ask why God created women and His mission for us. It is not WRONG to have a job outside of the home unless that job diminishes effectiveness in fulfilling a woman’s primary calling at home. It is important to evaluate reasons for working outside the home and determine if there is any deception there. (ex: “We can’t survive off of only one income.”)
Ø Genesis 2:18
Ø 1 Timothy 5:9-10
Ø 1 Corinthians 7:32-35
· In the will of God, there is now higher, holier calling than to be a wife and mother. (1 Timothy 5:9-10)
· God uniquely designed the woman to be a nurturer of life. (Genesis 2:24; 3:20)
· There is no greater measure of a woman’s worth or success than the extent to which she serves as the heart of her home. (1 Corinthians 7:32-35; Titus 2:4-5)
· God’s plan is that a woman’s primary attention and efforts should be devoted to ministering to the needs of her husband and children. (Genesis 2:18)”
Time to get our priorities in order, ladies!! And stop believing the enemies lies.
DeMoss, Nancy Leigh. Moody Publishers; Repreinted edition edition (April 2002).