There’s a constant theme that’s been coming up in my life the past year. And that lesson is, “Not everyone is going to like you.” I spent my whole life adjusting my personality to make other people happy. I thought that, as long as other people are happy, then what I’m saying must be right. My first inclination was not to stop and ask myself if what I was saying was true to me. My first inclination was, “Do they like me? Do they like what I’m saying? Are they happy with what I’m saying?”
Over the past year, I’ve had to distance myself from people that I love – people who are so close to me but are just not serving me. For the first time in my life, I decided to take seriously the idea that the goal in relationships is not to make others happy. The goal in relationships of any kind is to learn what you can and teach what you can – and, as long as it’s coming from a loving and truthful place, to be totally unapologetic about what you have to say.
Would I rather be right or happy?
I’d rather be happy.
A mentor of mine said to me, “You are a very talented and a special soul. You have never given yourself permission to be Heather. You spent your life being the Heather you “think” everyone wants to see. Just be you.” You know how some things just hit you right when they need to? This was that exact thing for me.
And now here’s what I know to be true:
There comes a point in time when you stop desiring for people to like you. Not because you don’t care about other people, but because you care about yourself and about what you have to stand for more. You care about what you have to teach and what you have to learn more than the fear of people disliking you or abandoning you. That is nothing compared to the act of abandoning your truth.
YOU are the guru. YOU are your truth. It’s just you. Give yourself permission to be you.