It’s Time to Declare Your Body a No Judgement Zone
Posted Aug 10 2014 10:07pm
What do you see when you look in the mirror? I mean really look, not with the glazed over eyes you use to make sure there’s no coffee stains and only an acceptable amount of cat fur clinging to your clothes.
When you see yourself, where do your eyes go?
If you’re like most people, you probably engage in a combination of selective viewing and judgmental self talk. You keep to the places that don’t make you cringe while a broken record of self flaggelation plays in the back of your mind.
I need to eat less.
I’ve got to quit with the sugar.
Why can’t I lose the weight? I’m so lazy.
Where did that gut come from? I’m getting old.
Ugh. I’m fat. I’m ugly. I’m worthless.
Too many of us believe that we can feel good when. When we lose the weight, when we get fit, when we change all the things we don’t like about ourselves.
Because our flawed, mushy bodies? Aren’t worth caring about.
I dealt with this quite a bit when I was younger, believing that I couldn’t love myself until I fit a certain acceptable mold, namely the one I saw emblazoned on the covers of magazines in the grocery store checkout lines, mocking my purchases of Ben & Jerry’s into which I was indulging to prop up my flagging self esteem.
Because when you impose strict rules (I'm only going to eat green cheese on alternating Mondays!) and a barrage of shoulds (must do crazy hard workouts until my limbs feel like jelly!), you're building yourself a cage and telling yourself that you're not good enough. You don't measure up. You're wrong, out of place, a misfit, and you must be punished by these gilded bars.
This kind of negative self opinion causes you to physically shrink, contracting your body, even if subtly. You start to build literal walls, laying down dense, tough tissue to insulate you from the world.
You're trying to hide, to make yourself smaller (especially if you feel big).
Here's the thing - you're a three dimensional being. Taking up space is what you do. When you clamp down on your body, you amputate your ability to feel good.
Contraction, folding in and hunkering down cause your body to produce more cortisol, a stress hormone. This in and of itself will sabotage your efforts to get healthy because when you're stressed? You want comfort.
And the easiest, cheapest way to find comfort these days is in the form of cheap sugar and carbs. Hel-lo, Cinnabon!
That sugar gives you a temporary high, like a drug (exactly like a drug...because it is one).
It's time to declare your body a no judgement zone. A no more apologies sector. An I-don't-give-a-crap-what-you-think-of-me realm.
Because when you feel good first, change happens easily. Choices become just that instead of rigid rules passed down by a diet dictator. Your life starts to take the shape that you want it to take because you naturally choose things that continue to make you feel good.
In energetic terms, like attracts like. When you're sending out the good vibes, you get more feel good stuff.
And really, every body deserves to feel good, regardless of size, shape and history. No matter what anyone has told you about yourself, whatever flaws you might rue, your body is inherently good.