As some of you may know we’ve reached a difficult stage with E and her sleep patterns. We’re working on it and haven’t made consistent progress but I am definitely not giving up. The reason I bring that up is not to complain but more to convey the point that I don’t get as much time for myself at home as I used to. The house isn’t spotless, heck it’s usually a mess. I rarely get to return emails unless it’s from my phone during Ella’s naptime in the car. If you notice a time when I tweet, instagram or update my facebook page those are usually times when I am sitting in my car with an hour or so to kill :/
I’ve been thinking more and more about the concept of doing nothing. Aside from the fact that I really don’t choose to blog as much anymore (don’t want to say I don’t “have time” it’s that I choose not to do it as much with the time I have). Well, Mike and I do have very little time to ourselves anymore and I choose not to jump on the computer to write or read blogs as much when we have it. But that, again, is not my main purpose of writing this evening.
I’m one of those people that has to always be doing “something.” I am sure 9 1/2 out of 10 of you reading this can relate. We are in an era of hectic minded people. Everyone is “so busy” “all the time” and no one really even feels comfortable in stillness. I taught another yoga class last Sunday morning, we had a great turnout (10 people!) and a few of them were first timers (some clients from my boot camps). During Savasana I noticed one of my clients eyes wide open looking around, and I looked over and her and motioned her to close her eyes and quite her mind. It reminded me of my first time in Savasana when I pretty much did the same thing. It’s a new and difficult thing to lye there in silence, chasing thoughts out of your mind for those few minutes of peace.
When I am at home in those rare moments that I get Ella to sleep early enough, or down for a nap IN the house where I don’t have to by lying there in the room with her, I jump at the chance to vacuum, do my dishes, fold laundry, catch up up on emails, plan client workouts, or something else. I can not just be. This is understandable given that these are all things that need to get done. But what about sitting down, clearing my mind and allowing myself to “be bored” for a moment. I have been trying this more lately and I must say that there is something to it! I will admit that I have used the time where Ella is asleep and I’m “stuck” because she’s lying on me or by me (super light sleeper). Most of the time I am reading, on my phone writing emails, or studying, etc. The last few times plugged my phone in, my nook was in the bedroom, the TV was off and I just sat there in silence and cleared my mind. Doing so has actually made me more productive when I am doing the things I need to get done. Sitting there, sipping on some tea, or not, and allowing my mind be clear for several moments. It’s made me a calmer, more patient person.
When I teach, even though I am still unsure of some things, I allow myself to fill space with silence and collect my thoughts, remain calm and keep things flowing without anyone noticing if I “mess up.” There really is something to be said about living in the present moment. It takes time and work to quiet our busy minds, but it can be done!
I truly believe that a lot of our stress and anxiety comes from our “overworked” minds. Everything will get done. When we have “less stress: we will be more effective in doing the things that matter most—and we will be able to enjoy our lives much more!
Homework for you guys: Try to sit for 15 minutes and DO NOTHING! No twitter, no facebook, no texting, reading, TV. Nothing. Be bored. Clear your mind. Not quite meditation, but it’s a step in the right direction!
Also, anyone that lives in the area I would love to invite you to one of my yoga classes! Sunday mornings and /or Tuesday nights. We got heaters and blocks this week, the space is great too! It’s $10. a class or $5. for you if you bring a friend ($5. for your friend too!) Email me if you’re in the Plymouth Meeting area and I’’ll give more details about the studio