Inner peace is already inside of you. That’s right! You already have everything you need inside of you. Everything we desire is already inside of us. In our souls, there we have love and peace. When we are operating from a true state of love and peace, we are in a space to receive what we truly desire.
When we are operating from a state of fear, anxiety, and guilt, we have detoured into fear and are listening to our ego. The ego will try to convince us that love and peace are attributes outside of us and that we have to “go out and find them” somewhere, whether it is in food, exercise, a boyfriend or girlfriend, a friend, shopping, a career, etc. A Course in Miracles refers to this “detour to fear” as separation. When we feel fear, anxiety, and guilt, we are making ourselves separate from others, and this translates to the belief that we are “less than” someone or “greater than” someone.
When we witness ourselves taking the “detour to fear” and feeling separate from others, it’s time to turn the car around and forgive. We can forgive our thought, we can forgive the situation, we can forgive ourselves, and we can forgive others.
I like to make a simple call out to the Universe and say, “I know that I have detoured to fear and I am willing to see love in this. I forgive myself and I forgive my negative thoughts and I am willing to release them so they can be healed.”
If you’re still feeling funky (and really, even if you’re not), practice these four steps to get yourself feeling fab again:
1.) Be grateful for the moment.
That’s right – even this seemingly shitty one. Gratitude is a practice, and one that we gotta come back to every day. We have the power to change our thoughts – and it all starts with gratitude. One of my favorite quotes about gratitude comes from Dr. Wayne Dyer. He said, “The essence of gratitude is understanding that every moment of your life is something to be grateful for…and everything that shows up in your life is something that you will want to be expressing a sense of gratitude about.” In this moment, we are experiencing exactly what we need to experience, and this moment is an opportunity to witness and learn something new. There is nowhere to go – everything you need is already here for you. Be grateful and be open to seeing the situation with loving eyes instead of fearful eyes.
2.) Not all thoughts are created equal…
Our ego speaks loudly while our inner teacher is a gentle-yet-authoritative whisper. When we have a fearful and separate thought (i.e. “I’m not good enough,” “I can’t do this,” “My life sucks”), the reason we believe it is because our ego speaks first and speaks the loudest. We are ignoring our inner guide because it doesn’t speak as loudly.Truth speaks softly because it is certain. Fear speaks loudly because it needs to be loud in order to seem real. The Course says, “Thinking of your thoughts as equals will destroy inner peace.” When you have a separate thought, acknowledge that it is not a loving thought and ask your inner teacher to help you see things differently.
3.) …but all of us are created equal.
These separate and fearful thoughts are what makes us separate from and fearful of each other. When we believe these delusional ideas of the ego, we see ourselves as separate from each other. I’ll give you an example: I was in a total funk this morning – and for no reason! There are so many amazing things going on in my life but my ego was running the show in my mind. It was telling me, “You’re a failure. You’re never going to accomplish this task. Just give up.” It was really loud and intense. After the thought came, I called out to my inner teacher and said, “I witness that this thought is crazy. I forgive myself for having this thought and I want you to guide me back to the truth of this situation.” I then sat down and made a list of 10 things I am grateful for and reflected on them, which heightened me to a more loving vibration. I still felt a little funky but I kept thinking about everything I was grateful for and held the faith that things would get better. A couple of hours later, the feeling went away.
4.) Be an extension of love.
The best way to get out of your head is to get out into the world and be of service. Switch from “me” to “we!” Being of service is our purpose. Go perform a miracle! Call a friend and say, “Hey, how are you? What can I do for you today?” When you go grocery shopping, let the person behind you go first. Smile at a total stranger and say hello. Little things like that make a huge difference. When you give more love, you receive it back tenfold. When you are great to others, greatness comes back to you.