Hot Topics: Buttery Nipple Shots, Trapped By Labels, Honoring Desires
Posted Aug 18 2010 5:24pm
Hi Friends! It's hot and humid here. 94F and humid to be exact. Ugh, not really a fan of humidity. We used to live in the Carolinas and we go to Aruba every year for a month, and those places are very humid, but you kind of adapt. San Diego is not known for being humid so when it rarely does happen and it comes on suddently, I feel it. As in curly hair mania, and a little puffy and a lot sweaty.
Still have to get the bedframe assembled and put together but I am going to save that for next week.I've had more "fun" than I can handle this week with the delivery nightmares .
It was also nice to read about whether or not you "Forget" to mention you used certain ingredients in a recipe like spinach, kale, or whatever food certain friends or family members may object to. None of us believe in being sneaky, but sometimes, it does help to mention what was in the recipe after the meal was happily devoured by everyone.
Even though I tend to dislike labels, what we term things does effect results and outcomes.Not just in food but in things like self-image and self-esteem, too.
And changing people . We all agree that leading by example, not preaching, or trying to "Save" anyone is best. Save your energy for yourself since all that preaching and saving usually serves to rile people up and make them even more resistant to a healthier path or to the choices or things you were attempting to get them to try.
Moving On... Today I'd like to Post Something that Touches on So Many Hot Issuesin one fell swoop...
I can't believe I am posting this because I know I will take tons of heat but whatever, I have a life, I blog about it, and no one's life stands up to microscopic scrutiny 100% of the time. If you don't want to read my blog because of this, then don't. Just don't blitz me with hate mail or nasty grams. Thank you. The last time I posted something I thought was Hot, my Tough Love Post on How to Get Abs , it was well-received, so maybe this will be the same!
Buttery Nipple Shot or Drink(yes, that is really the name. There are many ways to make this, but I keep it basic.) 1 part Bailey's Irish Cream 1 part Butterscotch Schnapps Pour over ice and either drink as a drink or strain ice and drink as a shot. Optional: One part coffee (already chilled works better)
Tastes like a Creamy Butterscotch Candy. It's divine. It's not vegan, it's alcoholic, I don't care. I hate labels and dogma ! 99.9% of my diet is vegan and I hardly think 1 oz of Bailey's is going to shut me out of the Vegan Pearly Gates. For whatever reason, if my choices are not choices you would make, that's totally fine by me. I am a big girl and accept my choices. I accept your choices, too. No judgment on my part whatsoever. I hope you can extend the same courtesy to me.
Questions 1. What's your favorite shot or drink recipe? I hadn't drank in nearly 5 years (being pregnant and then nursing I did not drink a drop) but in the past few months I have enjoyed a couple drinks and a couple shots, here and there when Skylar is in bed, and Scott and I are unwinding. I am an adult, it's legal, I can have a drink. We're talking extremely minimal as I am a lightweight these days! I do love champagne (see here ), and also wine (see here ), but again, it's more talk than action. I like to talk about drinking more than I actually do it...haha! After all, I had a 5 year dry spell. Pun intended.
2. Do you feel boxed in or trapped by labels? I don't consume animal products for 99.9% of my diet. I also treat trace dairy in the milligram amounts as a far cry from digging into a medium rare slab of steak. I know some vegans would never, ever, ever consume anything with dairy. I understand that. For me, again, I don't eat cheese, I don't eat yogurt, I don't seek out dairy per se, but should I deny myself the pleasure of a drink that I know I'd enjoy because there is some dairy in it? From a food allergy perspective, the less than 1 oz of whiskey/irish cream doesn't seem to bother my gut. Again, if I were to drink a glass of milk or a cup of yogurt, I can promise I'd have horrific stomach pains and other issues that would result.
I don't have all the answers, I am just talking out loud. And it's hot and Skylar needs me. But I would love to hear your thoughts on self-imposed labels. What to do when the label fits 99.9% of the time? Do you deny yourself things the other .1%? I'd venture to say there's a lot of bloggers who don't fess up to their transgressions but that's only speculation on my part...ahem. I know some vegan bloggers who have blogged about consuming things with dairy in them before, I won't name names but yes, it happens and they still call themselves vegan. I do too. See This Post .
3.Do you deny yourself that which you want? Should I deny myself something only on the grounds that"it's not vegan"? Or, if you are living a healthy path, in general, and you want something that some people would say "isn't healthy" or isn't the "best" choice or has a "long ingredient list" (that's the catch phrase on blogs I am noticing lately. Bloggers let themselves off the hook and say, oh this has a long ingredient list but I ate it anyway and liked it!)
If being a vegan or living a generally healthy lifestyle is about making more ethical and informed choices both in terms of the animals and for health benefits, is it healthy to deny yourself something that you want? Isn't that holding yourself prisoner to a label? Is it healthy to not honor that in which we want and have deliberated about and contemplated?
4. Does the mental/emotional aspect of stressing out over a food choice do more damage than the said "unhealthy" choice? Me = Yes! Stop stressing and just enjoy. Life is short. Enjoy it, have what you want. In moderation, of course, but don't worry, the sun will still come up tomorrow, everything will be fine.
5. Do you feel as a blogger the pressure to only post certain recipes or only post certain foods because you fear backlash, judgment, cruel comments, or even losing friendships because people don't agree with your choices if you were to post about certain things? Me = Yes!
And with that, I have just touched on an alcoholic drink recipe, a recipe with the word nipple in it, posting a recipe that's not vegan and being ok with it, feeling trapped by labelsat times. So, feel free to chime in, respectfully, on any of this! And to all my vegan friends, I hope that the trace dairy in my life doesn't make you like me any less or judge me harshly. That would be sad to me if it did so I hope not!