Christmas is approaching FAST. It’s a time when you deserve to let your hair down’, A time to look forward to enjoying all those extra special, mouth watering seasonal treats with family, friends and work colleagues. A time to go to every party and finger lickin’ buffet that’s going – without that nagging conscience!
So go for it, life has to be fun. At times we have to spoil ourselves, even with something’s that may not be what’s best for us. In my case, December is my month for letting go. Where everything I follow the rest of the year is put on the back burner. I eat foods that I wouldn’t normally, like chocolate, cake, crisps … and I love every mouthful. I overdo the alcohol consumption about four times in the month, and increase my portion sizes dramatically. Hey, I’m only human.
When the clocks strikes twelve and New Years day commences, I wave goodbye to not only the year just gone, but also to my excesses of the previous month. I am straight back into focus. My goals are back, and so am I.
Your passion, drive and determination can be dramatically increased when directed towards a focused goal. They provide you the direction needed to channel your energy to achieve your “personal best” in any aspect of your life.
95% of the people who set New Year’s resolutions never follow through. The reason is that most people don’t understand the process of how to produce lasting resultsand they never take the first steps. There is a process they need to follow to get started and create the momentum that will drive you to follow through. By following through this procedure, you will gain clarity about where you’ve been, where you are now, and where you want to go. It will also help you create a simple plan to set up your new year so that it truly compels, excites, and drives you.
Here I provide you a great process, that if you follow it through you will come out with the goals that will drive you through the year ahead. This was a process I was fortunate to learn many years ago at an Anthony Robbins Seminar.
STEP1: GET CLEAR.
To begin, you must first gain clarity about where you really are now…
1. What did you love in 2009?A. What were some of your Magic Moments?B. What did you accomplish in 2009?C. What are some of the things from 2009 that you want to duplicate in 2010?
2. What did you hate in 2009?A. What was challenging this past year?B. What do you not want to have happen again?C. What did you learn by going through these experiences?
3. What decisions did you make in 2009 that were empowering for you?A. What were some of the most important decisions of this year for you?B. What decisions might you make next year as a result?
STEP2: GET CERTAIN.
Once you know where you are, you need to create certainty about your capacity to take anything you can dream about and make it real.
1. Write down anything in your life that was once merely just a goal, dream, or desire. What are some of the big and little things that at one time seemed extremely difficult or impossible to achieve or acquire?2. Circle the two or three items on your list that seemed the most difficult or impossible to achieve.3. For the two or three items you circled, write down the steps you went through to turn each one of them into reality. You may not have done it consciously, but it’s likely something stimulated you to want them so much so that it may have become a magnificent obsession for you. Then, did you focus on it continuously? Put a lot of emotional charge into it? Then what? Did you actually create a plan? What were the steps you went through?
STEP3: GET EXCITED.
Now that you are clear about where you’ve been, and you have certainty about your ability to make your goals and dreams real, it’s time to decide where you want to go…
1. In a peak state, write down every goal you think you’d like to accomplish in the next 20 years. Be sure to include ANYTHING you want to do, be, share, create, have, give. Include financial goals, personal development goals, physical goals, relationship goals, contribution goalsanything you’d like to learn, enjoy, or do. No matter how silly or outrageous it may seem, this is your chance to dream without limits. Be sure to keep your pen moving as fast as possible!
2. When you are finished, go through your list and next to each item, write down the number of years you want it to take (or believe it will take) to achieve your goal (write 1 year, 2-3 years, 5 years, 10 years, or 20 years).
STEP4: GET FOCUSED.
1. Out of your list of goals (from step 3), circle your top four one year goals. Out of your entire list, what do you want most? What are the top four goals that, if you could achieve them this year, would get you up early and keep you up late with excitement?
STEP5: GET COMMITTED.
1. For each of your top four one-year goals, write a paragraph about why they are ‘musts’ for you to achieve them. What are the reasons you absolutely will achieve this no matter what?Remember, reasons come first, answers come second! Why do you want to do this?
2. What are some of the things that you may need to do that you don’t want to do in order to achieve these goals? If you have enough passion, you can get yourself to do anything, but first you must be certain about what “anything” might entail. Let’s look the tiger in the eye!
STEP6: GET MOMENTUM.
Never leave the site of setting a goal without taking some action toward its attainment. You must take immediate action.
1. Decide now: What is one small thing that you will do immediately toward achieving one of your top goals (e.g., making a phone call, booking a meeting, researching on the internet, signing up for a seminar, getting a coach, etc.)?
2. What is one big thing that you resolve to do immediately to achieve this goal (e.g., making a decision, throwing out all the unhealthy food in your house right now, giving something away, etc.)?
STEP7: GET SMART.
To make sure you follow through, you have to get smart and measure yourself consistently. Remember, most people set some New Year’s goals, have no plan or direction, take no action, and then measure again next New Year’s! The more you measure something the better it gets. You must resolve now to measure your specific progress daily, or at least weekly.
Goal setting is an essential skill that everyone needs to have. Very few people however take the time to think about their goals for the future. Those that live their life by design experience greater success, fulfilment, happiness and joy. There is a magic in goal setting that is unleashed when you start to live your life with a sense of purpose guided by a well-planned future.
Something happens the minute you set goals. You become a creator and something clicks. Immediately you change because immediately your expectations of yourself and your life changes. You acknowledge to both your conscious and subconscious minds that you are not satisfied with where you are. One of the major motivating factors in human action is that sense of dissatisfaction. In order to direct our lives we need to use both the positive and the negative consequences of goals. Ask yourself what will I gain by attaining my goals? Also ask yourself what will it cost me eventually if I do not achieve my goal?
It is critically important to have goals to direct our thoughts and minds and help us focus on what we desire most for ourselves and our lives. Thoughts are things. As you think so you are and so you will become.