Life is a journey, a journey filled with off road stumbles and on road bliss. This journey can feel like it is all uphill for those who are coping with a chronic illness, addictive disease or injury-related condition. But life is a journey.
“ He who chooses the beginning of a road, also chooses its destination.” -Anonymous
For every journey, a roadmap is helpful in order to get to the destination timely and see all the sights and do all the activities along the way, which one has planned. Many of us travel or have traveled on our journey of life, without such a road map. We all need direction at some time, although many of us don’t typically ask for directions. But how will you know where you want to go if you do not have a goal or destination in mind? Or if one has a destination, but no road map, one may circle around endlessly, reaching the destination long overdue or even worse never at all. Everyone should have a road map for their journey of life. On this road map, it is important to establish what you really want, who you really want to be, your purpose and how you will travel.
“ A man without a plan for the day is lost before he starts.” -Lewis K. Bendele
Life is a journey....A journey requires goals. Think about it, what do you really want? If you do not know, how can you receive it? Once you identify what you really want, write it down and if you have it already; fantastic! If you do not have what you really want, then establish it as a goal. Choose what you really want to be your experience. “ To choose is also to begin.” -Starhawk
Goal Setting Exercise: Take a few minutes to reflect on what exactly you wish to do, each day, each week, month and year. Now, take those thoughts and list 3-5 goals. Here are some examples of some goals:
1) I wish to spend more time with my family. 2) I wish to exercise. 3) I wish to work and have a successful career. 4) I wish to find love. 5) I wish to have more money.
Go back and revise your goals and be as detailed, objective and finite as possible. List your goal and then describe it as you imagine it would feel like if you were doing it or having it at this present moment.
1) I wish to spend 3 hours a day, one on one time with my family, playing, laughing and having fun together at the park.
2) I wish to exercise for 30-60 minutes 3-5 times a week, including walking, bicycle riding, weight lifting and swimming.
3) I wish to work in an environment that allows me to strive, not just survive, I wish to be successful and promoted to manager within the year.
4) I wish to meet my soul mate and be involved in a loving, caring, sharing and passionate relationship with this person and partner.
5) I wish to make “$ XX” dollars a year.
Now, go back and review your list again, read it out loud, how does the list make you feel? Do you feel good and happy when you read it and imagine yourself doing it or having those things right now? Good, that means you have identified good goals for you at this time. If you feel anxious or uneasy about your list, then go back and re-write the goals over and over until you do feel good. You should perform this exercise again, once you meet these goals and establish more goals. Once you get the hang of this creative process you will see your life unfold in front of you.