My grandfather once said, “If you can count your true friends on one hand, consider yourself lucky.” Sounds strange I suppose, but as I get older, this statement makes more and more sense.
In a world where we are bombarded with social media, forming friends and fans by the hundreds and sometimes even thousands, what a real friend represents has become somewhat distorted. The more fans…the more friends…the more followers, the better. We tweet from the delivery room as we bring life into the world, we share intimate secrets and confessions over Facebook, and we provide updates on some of the most mundane, yet personal experiences. Although I do believe there is a time and place for social media , has it caused us to forgo quality for quantity?
For me, a true friend is someone, regardless of distance or time, with whom I can bond with on a deeper level, beyond the nice superficialities. It is someone who I can share good news and bad news with, without judgment , jealousy or indifference. It is a person with whom I trust, respect and value, and deeply admire. It is someone who supports me, but is honest with me as well. This type of relationship isn’t something that happens over night. And it sure doesn’t happen casually over the internet. It takes time and work and real dedication. When I find these people, I treasure them…as they seem few and far between.
What does friendship mean to you? Do you find friendship has changed in the 21st century? Do you ever use the term acquaintance?