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Faith Triumphed over Doubt-A Relationship Makeover

Posted Dec 19 2010 8:10am

His transformation was unbelievable.  He appeared with his smiling wife and proclaimed that he has faith.  I was in shock.  I could hardly process what he was saying.

This is a man who had been relentlessly questioning and checking up on his wife.  He was consumed with doubt, insecurity and a lack of trust toward his wife.  He was compulsively trying to find out what was wrong with his wife.

As a psychologist, I believe what people think about their relationships creates the nature and quality of their relationships.  I was witnessing what I believe and the shift in his thinking was almost too great for me to comprehend.  I was witnessing a relationship makeover.

I was expecting a man who was compulsively lacking faith and trust in his wife.  Now, he kept saying that he has faith.  After he left, I realized I had seen a miracle generated by his change of mindset.  I went to the Internet to find the definition of faith.

According to, faith was defined as "confident belief in the truth, value or trustworthiness of a person, idea or thing.  Belief that does not rest on logical proof or material evidence."

After reading that definition, I got it!

He chose to have a confident belief in the trustworthiness of his wife!  He chose to not pursue logical proof or material evidence that could prove or not prove that his wife was trustworthy.  I believe that his new attitude and thought process will transform his relationship with his wife and psychological well-being. 

All of us can reduce conflicts in our relationships, by choosing to have a "confident belief in the truth, value and trustworthiness" of our significant others! 

Plant this thought in your mind; nourish it with contemplation; feel it; and it will grow and flourish in your mind and relationships.

Remember, We Live within the Relationships Created by Our Choices!

Dr. Hal

Life and Mental Fitness Coach


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