Faith Triumphed over Doubt-A Relationship Makeover
Posted Dec 19 2010 8:10am
His transformation was unbelievable. He appeared with his smiling wife and proclaimed that he has faith. I was in shock. I could hardly process what he was saying.
This is a man who had been relentlessly questioning and checking up on his wife. He was consumed with doubt, insecurity and a lack of trust toward his wife. He was compulsively trying to find out what was wrong with his wife.
As a psychologist, I believe what people think about their relationships creates the nature and quality of their relationships. I was witnessing what I believe and the shift in his thinking was almost too great for me to comprehend. I was witnessing a relationship makeover.
I was expecting a man who was compulsively lacking faith and trust in his wife. Now, he kept saying that he has faith. After he left, I realized I had seen a miracle generated by his change of mindset. I went to the Internet to find the definition of faith.
According to thefreedictionary.com, faith was defined as "confident belief in the truth, value or trustworthiness of a person, idea or thing. Belief that does not rest on logical proof or material evidence."
After reading that definition, I got it!
He chose to have a confident belief in the trustworthiness of his wife! He chose to not pursue logical proof or material evidence that could prove or not prove that his wife was trustworthy. I believe that his new attitude and thought process will transform his relationship with his wife and psychological well-being.
All of us can reduce conflicts in our relationships, by choosing to have a "confident belief in the truth, value and trustworthiness" of our significant others!
Plant this thought in your mind; nourish it with contemplation; feel it; and it will grow and flourish in your mind and relationships.
Remember, We Live within the Relationships Created by Our Choices!