Faith Triumphed over Doubt-A Relationship Makeover
Posted Dec 19 2010 8:10am
His transformation was unbelievable. He appeared with his smiling wife and proclaimed that he has faith. I was in shock. I could hardly process what he was saying.
This is a man who had been relentlessly questioning and checking up on his wife. He was consumed with doubt, insecurity and a lack of trust toward his wife. He was compulsively trying to find out what was wrong with his wife.
As a psychologist, I believe what people think about their relationships creates the nature and quality of their relationships. I was witnessing what I believe and the shift in his thinking was almost too great for me to comprehend. I was witnessing a relationship makeover.
I was expecting a man who was compulsively lacking faith and trust in his wife. Now, he kept saying that he has faith. After he left, I realized I had seen a miracle generated by his change of mindset. I went to the Internet to find the definition of faith.
According to thefreedictionary.com, faith was defined as "confident belief in the truth, value or trustworthiness of a person, idea or thing. Belief that does not rest on logical proof or material evidence."
After reading that definition, I got it!
He chose to have a confident belief in the trustworthiness of his wife! He chose to not pursue logical proof or material evidence that could prove or not prove that his wife was trustworthy. I believe that his new attitude and thought process will transform his relationship with his wife and psychological well-being.
All of us can reduce conflicts in our relationships, by choosing to have a "confident belief in the truth, value and trustworthiness" of our significant others!
Plant this thought in your mind; nourish it with contemplation; feel it; and it will grow and flourish in your mind and relationships.
Remember, We Live within the Relationships Created by Our Choices!
His transformation was unbelievable. He appeared with his smiling wife and proclaimed that he has faith. I was in shock. I could hardly process what he was saying.
This is a man who had been relentlessly questioning and checking up on his wife. He was consumed with doubt, insecurity and a lack of trust toward his wife. He was compulsively trying to find out what was wrong with his wife.
As a psychologist, I believe what people think about their relationships creates the nature and quality of their relationships. I was witnessing what I believe and the shift in his thinking was almost too great for me to comprehend. I was witnessing a relationship makeover.
I was expecting a man who was compulsively lacking faith and trust in his wife. Now, he kept saying that he has faith. After he left, I realized I had seen a miracle generated by his change of mindset. I went to the Internet to find the definition of faith.
According to thefreedictionary.com, faith was defined as "confident belief in the truth, value or trustworthiness of a person, idea or thing. Belief that does not rest on logical proof or material evidence."
After reading that definition, I got it!
He chose to have a confident belief in the trustworthiness of his wife! He chose to not pursue logical proof or material evidence that could prove or not prove that his wife was trustworthy. I believe that his new attitude and thought process will transform his relationship with his wife and psychological well-being.
All of us can reduce conflicts in our relationships, by choosing to have a "confident belief in the truth, value and trustworthiness" of our significant others!
Plant this thought in your mind; nourish it with contemplation; feel it; and it will grow and flourish in your mind and relationships.
Remember, We Live within the Relationships Created by Our Choices!
Dr. Hal
Life and Mental Fitness Coach