Lately, I have noticed that a lot of what people say is not aligned to what they do (including myself). It’s interesting to see examine why we do this. Is it doubt in our ability to make “right” decisions? Is it the lack of effort to truly decide on what we really want? Is it the fear of being judged by others? Is it the fear of regret or success? What is it?
I have noticed that when people do this, I would get very upset. Then I realized that this was just a reflection of my own tendencies. Because of it, I have made a valiant effort to be more consistent in doing what I say, even if what I say doesn’t make any sense. If I say I’m going to do it, I’ll do it. But there are times (past and present) when I would say something, and evaluate “how” I should go about it. And in that evaluation, I lose my momentum of taking action and let it fall by the waste side. I realize that committing to the action can be very difficult especially when you hold yourself accountable to your word. Integrity is a lost art now. And I want to get it back!
So now, I look at all those who have this rare quality called INTEGRITY. I see their characteristics, habits, emotions, tendencies, and demeanor. And here is what I have observed:
They are crystal clear about what they want and where they are going
They are very self aware (knowing what they can and cannot do, making it easier to say “yes” or “no” with confidence)
(Because of the previous traits) They are quick to make decisions and slow to change them
They do their due diligence BEFORE committing to something (sometimes it can be a quick glance over the situation or a detailed evaluation)
These simple, yet profound qualities are what I’ve seen in others with Intergrity. No matter how long it takes, I vow to do my best and mimic these traits. Wish me luck!