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Being a stay-at-home mother: My thoughts & tips

Posted Sep 12 2013 10:07pm
Home Baby Being a stay-at-home mother: My thoughts & tips

20 comments Sep 12/13 Baby, Mommy

 

As a stay-at-home mother, I’m often asked the following questions:

 

What is it like to stay at home with a child all day long?

Do you miss working in an office environment?

Do you ever get bored?

Is it lonely?

 

So, I thought I’d share some of my thoughts with you today along with some of my best tips for maintaining your sanity.

First of all, I feel so incredibly fortunate to be able to stay home with Michael, and I cherish each and every day that we spend together- even the ones when he is teething or refuses to nap.

And as far as getting bored…

 

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I can assure you that with an active child, a large house to clean, and articles and blog posts to write (just to name a few), there is simply no time to get bored!

That being said, there are days when I haven’t had enough adult interaction, and I take it out on MT when he gets home from work by talking his ears off for hours.  Luckily, I am married to a very patient man.

I do try my best to avoid those situations though.  Here’s what I’ve learned over the past 10 months…

 

Tips for stay at home mothers

 

1. Become friends with other stay-at-home mommies.

This one was actually pretty easy for me.  I swear that all of my friends decided to have babies at the same time!  We even have a private baby group through Facebook where we ask for advice, vent, or check in to see if anyone is up for a play date.  It is great for Michael to spend time with other babies and toddlers, and the cherry on top is that I get to see my friends.

If you don’t have any friends who also stay home with their kids, I know that many cities have mommy forums where you can easily connect with other women.  Signing your little ones up for activities, such as Gymboree, is a great way to meet other mothers as well.

 

2. Do at least one activity outside of the home every day.

Except for the days when one of us is feeling under the weather, Michael and I get out of the house at some point- whether it is a trip to the grocery store, a visit to the park, a lunch date with a friend, a walk, swim lessons, etc.  I am the type of person who gets stir crazy very easily, so this one is kind of mandatory.

 

3. Find time for your hobbies.

Some of my friends are runners and others are into crafting or reading.  My outlet is blogging and free lance writing.  In other words, you’re a part of the reason why I haven’t turned into a crazy person. :)

While being Michael’s mother is my grandest achievement, there’s no need to throw on the mom jeans and abandon all of my other interests.  Having some sort of creative outlet is not only great for my own sanity and self fulfillment, but I believe that it makes me a better mother as well.

 

4.  Make the most of nap time and bedtime.

If you’re a mother, you’re well aware of the fact that nap time and bedtime are magical times of day.  These are the perfect windows to answer emails, do some housework, throw in a load of laundry, schedule appointments, or return phone calls.  But these rare quiet times are also a wonderful opportunity to make some time for yourself.  Even doing something simple like painting your nails, taking a bath or shower, taking a power nap, making a cup of tea, or reading a magazine can make a busy mommy feel refreshed and recharged.

 

5. Get dressed and at least mildly pulled together.

This one will vary from person to person, but I know that I feel much better when I shower, put on an outfit that isn’t covered in remnants of Michael’s dinner, and take the time to do my hair and makeup…even if it is extremely tempting to stay in my pajamas all day. There’s no need to style your hair in a fancy up-do or put on a ball gown and a full face of makeup.  However, I do recommend doing whatever you need to do to feel good about yourself.

 

Being a stay-at-home mother is definitely a full-time job, but it is also the most rewarding job that I’ve ever had…by far.

 

If you are a stay-at-home mother, I’d love to hear your thoughts and/or any words of advice you might have to offer.

Have a great day!

erin

 

  1. Great post and I would have to agree with everything on your list. Especially #2! I have found that if we stay in day after day we both start to go stir crazy!

    thegrassskirt Reply:
    September 12th, 2013 at 4:55 pm

    I am glad that you liked it! :) Michael definitely goes stir crazy right along with me which is an even better reason to get out of the house.

  2. Love that e-card. I don’t doubt how busy you are. My mom was a SAHM and omg she was all over the place!!

    thegrassskirt Reply:
    September 12th, 2013 at 4:58 pm

    I am ashamed to admit that I used to wonder what moms did all day long. It is definitely tiring, but it is also so much fun. :)

  3. What an awesome post! I too am I stay-at-home Mom with two kids under 4! I also do a lot of the same things to stay sane!! Blogging is a great outlet for me as well! I would like to start getting out of the house more and making myself look a little more presentable! It is definitely not an easy job but staying home and raising my kids is my passion! :)

    thegrassskirt Reply:
    September 12th, 2013 at 4:58 pm

    That is exactly how I feel about it. I wouldn’t have it any other way! :)

  4. i am a sahm too…and get those questions all the time! i even have people look at me with pity at times when i tell them i am a sahm, but i chalk it up to them just wishing they could be at home to raise their children. it’s truly an awesome thing and i am so grateful that i am able to be with my kids as they grow! it goes by way too fast! your tips are great-and i try to do all of them! i like to make alone time for myself-whether it be for 10 minutes to shower, a quick 20 min trip to the store or 2 hours to catch up on my shows or something. just a little ‘me’ time to help decompress after a long day of caring for an energetic 2 yr old!

    thegrassskirt Reply:
    September 12th, 2013 at 5:06 pm

    Anyone who cares for a 2 year old all day long certainly deserves some time to themselves!

  5. I totally agree! I’ve been a sahm for 6 years and I love it. I sometimes feel guilty for wanting “me” time, but I know it helps me be a better mom in the end.

  6. Thanks for this post. I’m current a SAHM but I start work in January so i’m trying to cherish my time at home with my little boy — your tips are so true! I wish I had more mom friends, I’m sure it would make my experience a bit different. But with that said, even with Ian napping two times a day, I often find myself with not enough time to do things (and I live in an apartment). So no, I’m never really bored :)

    thegrassskirt Reply:
    September 13th, 2013 at 12:03 am

    I swear that I never knew what it was really like to be busy until I became a mom!

  7. Great tips! Sometimes I talk my husband’s ear off and don’t even notice it until I’m 30 minutes into some story. Luckily, he is very patient!

    thegrassskirt Reply:
    September 13th, 2013 at 12:04 am

    Haha. I do the same thing! I usually don’t realize that I’ve been talking up a storm until I suddenly get out of breath. :)

  8. Absolutely wonderful advice!! :D I don’t have my own child, but if I did these would be incredibly helpful!

    I found you on the blog hop, and am now following :D

    (www.artevolve.blogspot.ca)

    thegrassskirt Reply:
    September 13th, 2013 at 12:09 am

    Aw. Thank you for following! I’ll check out your blog too. :)

  9. I love this!! Great Post!! I am a SAHM to a 20 month old beautiful little girl who I cherish and adore more than words can describe!! I also feel guilty for needing “me” time every now and then. But, in order to keep my sanity and my baby girl happy, I decompress on Pinterest pretty much daily! I also chew my husbands ear off the minute he walks in the door! :)

    thegrassskirt Reply:
    September 13th, 2013 at 12:10 am

    OMG- Pinterest is THE BEST for escaping, isn’t it? Of course, I usually end up looking up kid-related things. Haha.

  10. {Melinda} These are great tips, Erin. I should have done more of this when I was a young, stressed out SAHM. You are so wise to have figured this out so early! :)

    thegrassskirt Reply:
    September 13th, 2013 at 12:11 am

    I don’t know if I am really very wise, but I’ll take it! :)

  11. These are great tips! i dont have kids, but this list will absolutely come in handy one day! however, i also think this is just great advice for people who work from home too.

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