Food Cravings: 5 Lies Your Food Addiction Tells You!
Posted Jul 22 2009 8:46am
Image by limaoscarjulietSince I began the process of refining my diet to help myself overcome cravings and health issues, I have often been met with hostility and defensiveness. It has taught me to appreciate that what I know about particular foods and why I choose to cut them out, doesn’t mean that others are ready to hear the truth or want to accept it. We are all on our own paths and we have to make our own decisions, however it is this barrier (defensiveness) people put up that is a common sign of addiction and so I want to address it here.
No one wants to admit or acknowledge that their favorite foods or indulgences are bad for them. So what we do is we concoct reasons and justifications as to why it is ok for us to indulge. We don’t have to feel guilty for our indulgences because we have lots of excuses for them. Facing the reality of the situation is scarey because we may not be ready to face the feelings that our addictions are repressing.
When I first decided to make some dietary adjustments, I thought that I would be able to do it overnight. This sent me into a panic and I ended up having a huge binge. The next day when my new diet was supposed to start, I went shopping. I felt obsessed over food and HAD to buy something junk related just to make me feel ok. It was a security for me. I felt comfort knowing that I had a bag of crisp in my cupboard! Sometimes you do have to take things slowly, but it made me realize how attached one can be to food. I still have justifications pop up into my head sometimes about why it would be ok if I had a chocolate bar or some junk. They are much weaker now then they were in the beginning and I don’t experience them very often anymore, but they are a reminder of how powerful comfort eating can be.
Below I have covered 5 common lies people tell themselves when it comes to their craved foods to help you to acknowledge some of your own lies you may be holding about your craved foods.
Whenever someone tells me that they continue to eat chocolate or junk food because it makes them feel good, my first response is always “But for how long?”. In reality, the good feelings experiences by our favorite foods are short lived. Most of the time your craved food makes you feel bad, but by the time you feel bad you may not associate the food with negative feelings of consequences.
For example for me, despite chocolate making me feeling food in the moment, it would leave me in a state of depression. It would also give me terrible mood swings the next and because I continually fed my addiction daily, I would feel out of control emotionally all the time. I would be angry and upset. I would feel like I was all over the place and that no one loved me. I would put a meaning to my feelings of depression and sadness that really had nothing to do with them – the only thing that did was my addiction to chocolate!
On top of this I spent most of my time obsessing. I would go late to the shops to get some, I would get cranky if I didn’t have some when I wanted it right then. I ruined my relationships with people over my moods and instability.
No one likes to feel like something is controlling us – food addictions like any addiction, makes us feel bad not good.
From my response to the above lie, do you really that your food addiction helps you deal with stress? It makes more sense to say it adds to it. It is a cause of stress.
Obsessing over it, always craving and needing the craved item then and there is a cause of stress. I never enjoyed my cravings. I enjoyed the indulgence for a split second, but wandering off to the shops every time I needed some, or the after effects were not fun at all.
Food addiction is our way of trying to cope with uncomfortable feelings/feelings of distress. However food addiction is a way of not dealing with something, with not dealing with feelings, that really need to be addressed. By not dealing with your feelings, by allowing them to flow through you, you ultimately leave yourself with a weight on your shoulder, adding to your stress not relieving it.
You will find it far more rewarding to deal with the feelings that arise in you, then to block them. The pain is there only for a little while and the relief you feel afterwards is beautiful – a great feeling you will never get from a chocolate bar.
Unfortunately one doesn’t mean one when it comes to food addiction. It means one after another, again and again and again. Have your ever been able to take one bite of your favorite food and not take anymore? I haven’t. The only way I was successful at giving up chocolate was to completely eliminate it from my life. Even when I have tried to treat myself with one, months later, I have found it traps me in its clutches again.
It isn’t a treat anyway. Chocolate, refined sugar and all the other processed junk foods aren’t treats. Why I ever considered making myself moody, irritable and depressed as a treat is beyond my comprehension now – bit I did.
I have told myself this one many times, it is the way my addiction has kept me hooked. This one has even sent me into a binge the night before as thought I felt desperate to cram in as much chocolate as I could before ultimately giving up the next day.
Unfortunately this just turned into a vicious cycle and I got no where. I would make the same promise every day.
Is it really a pleasure anymore? Any addiction isn’t really a pleasure – maybe in the few moments of tasting your favored food you might feel pleasure. Having your faved pleasure once in a while may very well be a pleasure. But overindulgence on a regular basis is not pleasure. Eating and bingeing daily is not pleasure.
Do you tell yourself any of these? Can you add any to the list? Please share by commenting below