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Appalling Post @ Jezebel Re: College Date Rape

Posted Mar 29 2010 6:25pm

This post is also at WeAretheRealDeal and isn’t something I’d typically blog about here but I’m appalled and well, it’s my blog :) — beware, foul language (not mine) to follow in this post.

As an American University alumna, I’m absolutely appalled at this story making the rounds on Jezebel today, “Date Rape is an Incoherent Concept: Blaming the Victim, American U. Edition.”

Located in our nation’s capital, AU is known to be a pretty liberal school. I’m usually so proud to be an alumna of such an open-minded institution — known for its diverse student body and a reputation of producing politically and socially active alumni who do great things all over the globe.

As you can imagine, this is NOT the kind of news you want to share from your alma mater.

But it’s not something I want to see kicked under the rug, either.

I feel this message needs to get out, because there are surely other people out there who think like Alex Knepper . And it disgusts me to no end.

In his words: “Let’s get this straight: any woman who heads to an EI [an unrecognized fraternity at American University] party as an anonymous onlooker, drinks five cups of the jungle juice, and walks back to a boy’s room with him is indicating that she wants sex, OK? To cry “date rape” after you sober up the next morning and regret the incident is the equivalent of pulling a gun to someone’s head and then later claiming that you didn’t ever actually intend to pull the trigger.

“Date rape” is an incoherent concept. There’s rape and there’s not-rape, and we need a line of demarcation. It’s not clear enough to merely speak of consent, because the lines of consent in sex – especially anonymous sex – can become very blurry. If that bothers you, then stick with Pat Robertson and his brigade of anti-sex cavemen! Don’t jump into the sexual arena if you can’t handle the volatility of its practice!

Really, Alex? Every girl walking into a frat party is asking for it? Really? I could go on, but I won’t.

I much prefer to share what this man said in the comments — and pardon the language — but I wasn’t about to censor this):

“Listen up Alex: I’m a gentleman of 51, so respect my age & experience for about 5 minutes and I’ll let you in on a couple of secrets: (1) Real men don’t take advantage of anyone’s state of inebriation. In just about any legal or moral junior handbook, this is sexual assault. (2) Gentlemen of moral character HELP people of either gender who are incapacitated, they do not take advantage. Basic societal rules of decency apply here. (3) Anyone merely entering a party, soiree, gathering, concert is not giving you explicit permission to fuck them. Your views on this do not make you pro-sex, it just makes you an apologist for predators. Combined with your obvious antipathy to LGBT folks, it also pretty much makes you a dick. I sincerely home this clears things up, Mr. Knepper, but I really fucking doubt it.”

A-frickin-men!!!

UPDATED TO ADD: Knepper responds–new post @ Jezebel.

How about you? Are you seething? What do you think about his diatribe?


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