It's funny how we only realize we've turned a corner after we're way down the block! I've been where you are, I totally get it. Then, you suddenly realize you CAN go to the market with them and it isn't disastrous. And then, it's something else...then something else. Soon you're pulling your hair out because they are obnoxious tween/teens...but, you blink and they are having a real conversation with you - their humor is growing up and they make you laugh hysterically or sit in stunned silence when you realize they are turning from beasties into real people! It makes all the bullshit a little less stinky. Big hugs...I just love you!!!