Women like to talk. Our days are filled with words and they matter. Our communication is an essential lifeline that weaves throughout all our relationships. Do you know God places great importance on the words we speak?
How many times have you been hurt by what someone said or how they said it? How deep and lasting has that hurt been? How has is molded you? How has it shaped your life? Do you realize that your words to others may have had the very same impact on them and on their lives? Poor communication or lack of communication destroys relationships and ruins marriages. I have heard it said, “speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.”
Have you ever thought of your words as a gift? They can bring grace and encouragement into the hearers life. However, this gift of speech can be both our downfall and our glory. Harsh words can cut and bite, and often we excuse ourselves thinking that is just the way we are made. Yet, the Bible says that the source of our words is our heart. In other words, the mouth is the microphone of our heart.
Proverbs 4:23 says “Keep your heart with all diligence for from it flows the springs of life.” Just as a mirror reflects back a clear image of our face, what comes out of our heart reflects who you are internally. This quote is from a Bible study we are doing on Wednesday nights. (The Gathering Place, Creating a Culture of Titus 2 Disicipleship, by Harvest Bible Chapel in Davenport Iowa)“Everytime we allow something to enter our heart, we are sowing a seed that will produce a harvest. Determining what type of harvest come forth from our mouths begins with the things we permit to enter our hearts.”
“For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. The good person out of his good treasure brings forth good, and the evil person out of his evil treasure brings forth evil. I tell you, on the day of judgment people will give account for every careless word they speak…” Matthew 12:35-36
So often I recite this in my heart… “Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me.” Psalm 2:10 Only Christ’s presence in my life can make gracious speech possible. I fail miserably on my own.
We have been challenged to quiet our hearts before the Lord and pray that He will increase our desire to speak graciously. “A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in a setting of silver.” Proverbs 25:11 and “Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body.” Proverbs 16:24 Just imagine our words can actually bring healing to a tired, restless soul.
What are those situations you find yourself in that make it most difficult to maintain gracious speech? Identify those in your life and ask God to remind you beforehand to be extra prayerful and careful on the words you speak. With His help we can and must learn to control our tongue. We have wonderful opportunities everyday to use our tongue as a gift to other people. Let’s use them to God’s glory!
“Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person.” Colossians 4:6
I couldn't agree with you more. I am reading a christian book called "The 4:8 Principle". It makes a very good point that our thoughts are always showing. The way we are thinking directly affects the way we act and speak. If we are always thinking about how we can please God, then our words will reflect that and everything else will fall into place underneath it. It's good to see a christian/faith based post. Thanks!!