Rediscovering the 'Joy' of it all - “Joy of Sex” has been Updated
Posted Feb 03 2009 12:08am
We are definitely living in a different world than where we were in 1972. The new release has been all over the news of late and states the update is more geared to values and how we live our lives today, even with technology related updates.
The one message that has clearly changed from the original book from what I have read on reviews is the fact that the focus is now on being a couple, in other words focusing on the togetherness instead of what the original book of the 70’s professed and was pretty much written from a man’s point of view. The bearded man of the 70s has been updated to reflect more current visuals of how we look today.
Interesting how things have changed over the years and now instead of being wrapped up with being an “I” person, times are changing to focus on being a team or more of the “We” concept and it appears the revised book carries this theme throughout as well. The Times Online has predicted the DVDs to be a smashing hit for Valentine’s day in the UK. With the rushed and confusing society we live in today, it is easy to become so connected that you end up being disconnected and perhaps the new book is also an effort in suggesting ideas on how to stay connected in some of the most challenging times. BD
This edition is thoroughly revised, with new photography and new illustrations, and text that’s supplemented with the woman’s point of view. The revisions are informed by new science and new understandings. Psychologist and sexologist Susan Quilliam was invited to “reinvent” the book for the 21st century. Now you’ll read material from the male and female points of view. These male and female ideas are easy to spot as they are set off with quotation marks and attribution. For example, “She says, ‘Show me that I’m beautiful and everything else follows.’” Men are meant to take these statements as fact. And, as an aside, last Sunday’s New York Times magazine asserts that if you show your female partner that she is desirable, the rest follows rather joyfully.
The new “Joy of Sex” wants us to “challenge routines” and “never accept mediocre.” Novelty, say the authors, triggers passion and replicates old romantic feelings. The book is for mature adults in the sense that it takes a certain confidence and sense of responsibility to explore options and ask for new and different things. This path toward sexual development is essential, according to the book, even if it has the potential to stir insecurities.
The illustrations and accompanying text show readers what can work. “But remember,” the authors caution, “it’s a menu, not a rulebook.”