This month’sCareer Collective topic is: Specific tips to help job seekers ramp up their efforts for the holiday season and the new year. Atthe end of this post, check out the collective wisdom of the career bloggers in the collective.
Are you living with chronic illness and looking at the holiday season with dread rather than excitement?
Do you find yourself wondering if you could just skip this somehow?
What’s this about? Here’s what I think.
First, living with a chronic illness means that no day is truly a “holiday”. We’re never off the clock. Illness doesn’t respect holidays.
Plus, the long holiday season means more demands on our already “stretched to the max” physical resources. People expect we’ll show up — and we do, too.
We dig in our heals, put nose to grindstone and do what we HAVE to do. Which is how we forget about a basic human need: the need to relax and turn “it” off. We’re too busy riding the bus, rather than driving it.
I know because I’ve fallen into this trap. In the first few years of building my business, cicoach.com, my laptop went on “vacation” with me. I told myself that I was making up for lost time – - all those sick years when I “fell behind” in growing a career. I told myself that I loved what I did so it was okay to do it most of my waking hours.
Then it hit me. In my desire to prove that work is good for me and to make up for any lost sick time, I wasn’t take charge of my life. I’d given up driving my bus and was reacting rather than planning.
And I’m not alone. I hear similar stories from many living with illness.
So here’s my question for you. What can you do to drive your bus?
Are you thinking that you don’t have the money, so why bother? Sure a trip to the Caribbean or a Greek island would be nice. But, I’ve found that staying put, shutting down the computer, not scheduling my time and doing what moves me rather than what has to be done is time well spent, too. It rejuvenates the mind and the body. Are there ways to vacation on your budget?
Are you worried that your employer is already so angry that you’ve missed work because of illness? That can be a real concern in some cases. But think of this. Most company benefits (when companies used to offer them!) separate time for health issues from vacation time for a good reason. They’re not the same. Yes, business demands have to be met and your absence might have put a strain on others. But planned vacation isn’t the same as unpredictable short term disability. What discussion can you have with your supervisor that would allow you to take vacation without fearing it will hurt you?
Are you job hunting or running your own business and fearful that you’ll lose valuable time if you “take a break”? It’s easy to let fear consume us. But ask yourself, “Am I running on empty?” If holidays put more pressure on your personal life, can you can you prioritize? Are there choices that allow you to show up where you want and need to be and still take care of yourself?
Today is the best day to take charge of driving your bus rather than being a passenger and getting stuck in minefields.
Looking for more self care ideas? My guidebooks,Career Thrive Series are chock full with concrete ideas that motivate and inspire.
I’d love to hear from you. What do you to take care of yourself in the holiday season?
December 2009 Topic: Specific tips to help job seekers really ramp up their efforts for the holiday season and the new year. What should they do with their resumes? To improve their networking? Etc. … What ideas do we have to help our readers make the most of what some think is a “slow” season for hiring?
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