10 Things Patients Love To Hate About Their Doctors
Posted Jan 22 2009 5:13pm
Patients have a love/hate relationship with their physicians. They love some things and hate others. Here is a list of things they hate, and actually take as a sign of incompetence, rather than just poor bed side skills.
Being a slouch. Patients take the lack of eye contact, hands in pockets and crossed arms as a signal your aren’t listening. Lack of eye contact finishes it off. ( If your kid did this, would you feel they were listening?) Lack of eye contact is the NUMBER ONE behavior that patients hate the most.
Standing when the patient is sitting (or laying.) Sit down and look at the patient.
Standing far from the exam table/bed. Patients are apt to think that YOU think they smell! Seriously!
Not being available. When calls aren’t returned, patients hold it against you. This also goes for being available while you are in the exam room. I try to delay answering pages while I’m examining a patient, as I need to BE present for the patient I am examining,
Giving the perception that you are rushing, Please notice the word perception. You may be hurried (harried?) but sit down, smile, and use humor if appropriate.
Using technical terms. Patients are intimidated by the words we throw about. Speak simply. I don’t know anything about car engines and my eyes glaze over when the mechanic mentions words like “catalytic converter” or “repack the wheel bearings”. Patients feel similarly about words like “congestive heart failure” and “synovial fluid.”
Not answering questions. If you don’t know the answer, tell the patient you will get back to them, or ask Dr. Bigg Bux, the orthopod, to explain exactly how the hip will be replaced.
Don’t automatically say no, especially with out a reason. I am ashamed to admit that I reflexively said no to a family request this past week, thought about the request, and then came back to tell them I could do what they asked. Why was I so quick to say no? Arrogance, time pressure, all of the above. It took more time to change my mind then to do what they asked!
Talking down to patients. It is difficult to hit the sweet spot. You want your conversations to be easy to understand but not juvenile. You never know how patients will take what you say, but being flexible is helpful.
Mistrusting the patient/type casting the patient. The book, How Physicians Think, by Jerome Groopman, has an excellent chapter on how physicians make mistakes when they stereotype patients.
Patients will also be less likely to trust you if you are of a different ethnicity, sex or culture. These are harder to over come, and patients perceptions can be tough to change in these areas. I still haven’t found a way around the fact that some patients prefer a male physician. I happen to be female, and that’s one thing that ’s not likely to change!