The issue of Relative Aggression is so new that clinical studies are just beginning (thanks taxpayers!) and we are still in the infancy of understanding this tween/teen girl phenomenon.
Schools may enlist the specialty of Aggression Therapists, but it’s your responsibility to actively parent your girls. Bullying is not something that just goes away on its own, it is not something that children can work out amongst themselves, and it is not something kids will just naturally outgrow, according to “School Bullying Prevention” from Education.com. If you know or think that your child is bullying or being bullied, believe them and intervene immediately. Here are five actions you can take now:
From Dorothy Doyle, Licensed Clinical Marriage and Family Therapist:
If you have a daughter, try the Nurtured Heart Approach to Parenting to tell her exactly why you love her, maybe even 20 times a day. It will take you less than a minute every time. Isn’t she worth that? Fill her up with evidence-based goodness and watch her attitude and behavior change. Be her cheerleader. Like Becky Bartlett, NHA Advanced Trainer, teaches, instead of a lecture before she goes out, how about a pep rally? Define her innate goodness to her and you will see the miracle of change. Trust me.
Parent & School Resources:
Anti-Cyberbullying Campaign in Maple Valley Schools by Amy Croan
The Girls by Amy Goldman Koss
Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls by Mary Pipher