Ask A Good Husband Round 2: The Answers

Here are my answers to your questions for round 2:

robertsm.85 said...Taking the whole experience, from the proposal to the end of the reception, when you think back to your wedding what few bits of advice would you give to a couple going through the process of getting married?

Well, Robert (and Joe, who echoed this question), this is such a good question that I think I'll answer it in full in a future post, so be sure to stop by again later this week. In brief, I can say that I would have given more thought to finances, planned the proposal better, and planned the wedding a little better.

persistentillusion said...If you could live in any time period, when would it be?

I can honestly say that I am really happy to be living right now, for a multitude of reasons: 1) There is so little disease, 2) Everyone gets to be educated & relatively wealthy, and 3) I have the opportunity to hear the gospel of Christ and share it freely with others.

Anonymous said... What advice would you give to a wife who wishes her husband read this blog? Don't get me wrong, my husband is my best friend, and the true love of my life, but there are moments when I wish he would set aside the materials of the world for spiritual, learn that you have to work for the things you get, and that family is first.

I would say you could 1) send him a link to the website 2) print off an article that you especially like and give it to him, explaining why you think it's important, or 3) throw a fit like a little girl and whine until he finally reads something, just to make you happy, then he walks away and never comes near the site again. I prefer one of the first two. Joking aside, you can't force a man to read advice, or he'll never take it. Suggest it, pray for it, but don't force the issue.

jlc said... How can I reconnect with my wife while overcoming porn/lust addiction?

It's going to be difficult for each person and each couple. For some it can take years for the healing to take place. It sounds like you are on the right track with counseling, prayer, and talking to your pastor, but remember that it can take years to recover from any serious addiction. Just be as loving as you can and allow your wife to come to you on her own terms. You might even ask her, as gently and lovingly as possible, what it would take for her to forgive you. Then do it.